Separated from Wife - Don't want her back!!
Hi All,
I'm new here, although over the last week and a half I've read a lot of posts.
A week and a half my wife left me because she was unhappy. Unhappy with my jealousy of her friends, particularly other male friends. She is staying with a friend currently but has sorted out a place to live.
Firstly, I'm 25 and my Wife is 24. We've been living together for almost 6 years and got married four months ago.
Now let me explain my jealousy, I have very low self-esteem and also depression and anxiety. This has been going on for some time, however three weeks ago I began seeking help. I have explained to her that it's not that I don't trust her, it's that I felt like any guy she met was going to be better than me. I had an epiphany last week and my self-esteem is on the up again, which is good and she is pleased to see this.
Since we have split her mind has changed from "No way never" to "I'm falling in love with you again" back to "No way never" (after a fight) and to "I'm confused and I don't know what I want, give me space". We have been the most open and honest with each other we've ever been during this period also, it seems that both of us have been withholding our sexual fantasies for fear of scaring the other away, it turns out sexually, we're a perfect match. We have been "sexual" with each other but have not actually had sex. We have kissed and cuddled, and she has looked at me with the adoration that I used to see in her eyes.
I have seen her every day for commuting purposes since we parted ways. We have had some good discussions, and some bad ones. Some laughs and some sad times.
A week or so before we split, an old friend of hers (they went out on a date in high school once) contacted her on Facebook and they met for lunch. I got jealous of this and I think this was the straw that broke the camels back.
Today while commuting with her, I inquired about her plans for the weekend and she told me that she is seeing this guy for dinner on Saturday. Foolishly I said "I thought he may have something to do with this!" rather than "Oh cool, have fun". As my self-esteem increases I have gotten over my jealousy, but my emotions are a little raw right now and I explained this to her and she understood.
Do you think she is testing me?
We are going in to NC for 2 weeks as of tonight, as I have arranged an alternative way to commute to work.
This morning she also told me she still fantasizes about me sexually, and that she's sad about NC because she is going to miss me.
I've been so up and down over the last 10 days. The mixed signals are driving me insane, but I hope NC helps.
I really do want to share my life with this woman, and as she only married me four months ago, I find it difficult to believe that she has completely given up on us. I asked her if I could take her on a date after the period of NC and she just said "We'll see".
Any opinions?
Hi All,
I'm new here, although over the last week and a half I've read a lot of posts.
A week and a half my wife left me because she was unhappy. Unhappy with my jealousy of her friends, particularly other male friends. She is staying with a friend currently but has sorted out a place to live.
Firstly, I'm 25 and my Wife is 24. We've been living together for almost 6 years and got married four months ago.
Now let me explain my jealousy, I have very low self-esteem and also depression and anxiety. This has been going on for some time, however three weeks ago I began seeking help. I have explained to her that it's not that I don't trust her, it's that I felt like any guy she met was going to be better than me. I had an epiphany last week and my self-esteem is on the up again, which is good and she is pleased to see this.
Since we have split her mind has changed from "No way never" to "I'm falling in love with you again" back to "No way never" (after a fight) and to "I'm confused and I don't know what I want, give me space". We have been the most open and honest with each other we've ever been during this period also, it seems that both of us have been withholding our sexual fantasies for fear of scaring the other away, it turns out sexually, we're a perfect match. We have been "sexual" with each other but have not actually had sex. We have kissed and cuddled, and she has looked at me with the adoration that I used to see in her eyes.
I have seen her every day for commuting purposes since we parted ways. We have had some good discussions, and some bad ones. Some laughs and some sad times.
A week or so before we split, an old friend of hers (they went out on a date in high school once) contacted her on Facebook and they met for lunch. I got jealous of this and I think this was the straw that broke the camels back.
Today while commuting with her, I inquired about her plans for the weekend and she told me that she is seeing this guy for dinner on Saturday. Foolishly I said "I thought he may have something to do with this!" rather than "Oh cool, have fun". As my self-esteem increases I have gotten over my jealousy, but my emotions are a little raw right now and I explained this to her and she understood.
Do you think she is testing me?
We are going in to NC for 2 weeks as of tonight, as I have arranged an alternative way to commute to work.
This morning she also told me she still fantasizes about me sexually, and that she's sad about NC because she is going to miss me.
I've been so up and down over the last 10 days. The mixed signals are driving me insane, but I hope NC helps.
I really do want to share my life with this woman, and as she only married me four months ago, I find it difficult to believe that she has completely given up on us. I asked her if I could take her on a date after the period of NC and she just said "We'll see".
Any opinions?