I think you should ask her, she may have a reason for doing so.

 

The only reason to not allow you to follow her is she doesn't want you to see her posts, likes, etc., doesn't want you to see her followers or her followers to see you. Not much else. Have you tried asking her why she hasn't accepted your request?

 

But she has ignored the request. I know that she received it. What reason would someone have for not allowing or wanting their spouse to follow them on social media?

Doesnt she ignore all of your tequests on any subject? IMO a husband n wife should be an open book to one another. Secrets lead to misunderstandings at a minimum.

But your wife doesn’t care what you think about anything. If guessing wouldn’t be bit surprised if she was dragging you through dirt on SM.

 

Ask her.

Honestly, when will enough be enough?

 

I'm not biting.

 

Think you kinda just did.. 😊🤔

 

She doesn’t want you to see the string of orbiters and guys she’s a goalie bamgimg on instagram, or the pics she’s posted of herself obviously fishing for some D.

geez you need to buy some RidX and De-louse,because your wife is lousy.

 

Huge red flag. Wake up.

 

Only reason I see is she does not want you seeing her interactions with other guys or posting of inappropriate stuff.

 

I'd hazard a guess she posts and shares a lot of stuff about how ****ty husbands and men are and she doesn't want you to see it.

 

I'd hazard a guess she posts and shares a lot of stuff about how ****ty husbands and men are and she doesn't want you to see it.

And her husband in particular. Are folks from his church on Instagram with her? Are they all laughing about OP behind his back?

 

How much more of her rudeness are you going to endure?

 

All of it. He is spineless to the core. That isn't enough though, he's helping shepherd his sons into a spineless future too. That is the really sad part of his situation. He can't even stand up to her when she tells her son she's not sure if she would be sad if he died.

On one hand I feel sorry for @deadsave because quite honestly I think he is a victim of spousal abuse. At the same time he has it within his power to do something, but he chooses to do absolutely nothing. Well, except ***** and moan about it on here.

 

I can't believe you're starting another complaint thread. C'mon man.

 

Not a complaint thread. It’s a legit question and I have my answer.

Thanks all!

 

Maybe she doesn’t want to share it because you over analyze and she doesn’t want to hear your hummingbird husband questions based on your insecurities? IDK.

 

No over analyzing from me. I don't analyze enough...clearly...

 

Considering your other threads ……..

Dude except the reality. At this point it has become you are the problem not her. It’s clear what she thinks of you.

 

I guess her account is set to private. Yea, not a good sign when you won’t add your spouse. I think Beyoncé only follows one account and it’s her husband’s. I wouldn’t go that far. lol

Your entire marriage is a red flag, deadsave. 😕

 

His wife does whatever she pleases. She knows he isn’t going anywhere.

I wonder how many of her acquaintances have her slant on her marriage.

 

I asked her about it tonight. She said, "I don't want you following me because your account isn't private and your name is associated with it, so other people will want to reach out and follow you." I don't intend to post anything so I'm not sure why someone would want to follow me. I must have unclicked the "follow" because she said, I don't see your request any more. She then said, "I don't ever post anything, the last thing I posted was over a year ago." So are there other things I would be able to see other than her posts?

I changed my profile to "private" and changed my name to the name of my business and clicked the "follow" again. She's still not accepted it, even though I know she's in the other room scrolling.

 

She's still not accepted it

She isn’t going to. She does what she wants when she wants how she wants. She knows there are no consequences.

But you knew that already. Just live your own life and leave her to live hers. Forget trying to “follow” her. There are better uses of your time.

 

Man, either take action or quit complaining.

 

Sorry man, I've not once complained in this thread. I'm genuinely seeking understanding.

 

Check out the other thread on here about how many married people have a backup plan. I commented that you'll find the backup on their social media. This is why she does not want you on there.

 

Another woman yes. @deadsave IS her backup plan. Read her life history. She hates men in general. She has a damaged past and poor uphbringing. She has tried plenty if men and didn’t like any if them. She eloped with him asap once she caught him.

She gets all she wants of everything she cares about from @deadsave. He is a compliant provider and easily controlled. What could any other man give her that he doesn’t already?

 

Has anyone considered that she may have "girlfriends" on Instagram with whom she flirts? Perhaps that's her reason for not letting @deadsave on her account.

 

A woman in love with her husband WANTS him to be a part of every aspect of her life.

She seems to want DS to have nothing to do with hers.

DS,
Your wife treats you poorly and with disregard. What are getting out of this relationship? Maybe start withdrawing the things you provide for the relationship and treat her with some disregard and see how things roll.

 

I can’t do that. I do many things poorly but what I do well is provide for my family. I enjoy taking care of them and making sure they have everything they need and a lot of what they want.

 

I thought he mentioned long ago and far away that he suspected she might like women better than men.

I think she just wants privacy and doesn’t care for him to follow what she is discussing online.

 

I don't get social media at all.

My wife has a FB account and will post pictures of our sons or our trips to the coast a few times a year. Some years ago, I had a friend back in Chicago tell me I sure wore baggy clothes on a phone call. I said how the hell do you know I haven't seen you in 20 years. He said my wife had posted pictures from our Christmas that year.

I proceeded to tell her to never post pictures of me on FB again in a very loud voice. She teared up cause CM was acting an azzhat. A few days later, I asked her if she took my pictures off it. She had and suspended her FB account. I felt bad for being a jerk and asked her to re-open it. Then I asked her to ask me before posting pictures of me on it.

 

My wife has a FB account and will post pictures

Neither of us have any SM. Never have. For this exact reason i have never seen any upside.

But IMO if a married person has SM it needs to be an open book, their spouse ought to review content regularly.

 

@deadsave. Obviously shes hiding things from you ...I'm sure you must know that ?

 

Why does it bother you that she isn't accepting your request? In all actuality, given how your marriage to her is, does it actually surprise you? Did you open the page to see if she accepts? Was there another motive?

 

You're still desperately clinging to a woman who treats you like something she stepped in out in the backyard, I see.

Everyone can only give the same advice over and over and over and over and over and over again so many times. Are you looking for a magic answer? One doesn't exist. It's time to FACE reality, OP.

 

I guess I've lived in this reality for so long that it's become the norm. Aside from my relationship with my wife, I love my life. My job, kids, side hustles, house...I'm very content. I know leaving the marriage will completely destroy everything. And being treated like a second class citizen isn't enough for me to throw it all away.

I've heard many people say "kids are resilient" and go through divorce all the time. Yet I listen to a mental health podcast where so many guys call in with problem xyz, and sometimes it's traced back to "being abandoned" by their dad when their dad left their mom. I'm not going to be that guy. If my wife is having some kind of emotional affair with someone on social media, sharing nude photos of herself, or some other kinds of inappropriate behavior, then that's her choosing to end the marriage and she can bear the responsibility for abandoning her kids.

I recognize the problem and the fact that there's no "easy button" that will fix it. I didn't create this thread looking for advice on what to do with my situation. As most have commented, that advice has been given over and over again. I get it.

Just as she may be one of the 50% who have another (or multiple) partner(s) waiting in the wings, I am fully ready to file for divorce when that person is finally revealed.