[Jeffsmith35]

And, don't forget to tear the vacuum apart and check for hairs.

And carefully dig through the garbage before it goes out to the road 😉

 

[MattMatt]

Weird. Why do you lift the seat to vomit?

To avoid getting vomit on the seat? Doesn't everyone do that?

 

[ccpowerslave]

To avoid getting vomit on the seat? Doesn't everyone do that?

I know I do!

 

[QuietRiot]

To avoid getting vomit on the seat? Doesn't everyone do that?

😂 Well now I’m the weirdo! No! I don’t want to have my face near the pee pee ring. I like to rest my elbows and forearms on the seat for stability while heaving.

 

[BigDaddyNY]

😂 Well now I’m the weirdo! No! I don’t want to have my face near the pee pee ring. I like to rest my elbows and forearms on the seat for stability while heaving.

Thankfully I haven't had to drive the porcelain bus in a long time, but when I did I always kept the seat down, easier to grip. lol

 

[Elizabeth001]

I trust her completely.

Huh?


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[BigDaddyNY]

Good morning from the Sunshine State. Thank you all for your comments. I have nothing new to report. We took a family day and drove across the state to visit two of my great-aunts who finally feel comfortable having vaccinated guests. It was really good to hug them. And it was a really nice family day.

Today K and the daughters are joining some of their girlfriends for their first unmasked shopping trip for clothes in over a year. My plan today is to download the cell phone bill and install the Arlo cameras. @Blondilocks suggested putting security on the side door which was the first thing I plan to cover with an Arlo. Because of the way the house sits on the lot the drive comes in by the side of the house and then turns into a garage area with a parking pad which also exits to the street. Our normal traffic pattern is to enter from the front of the house and exit from the parking area into the side street. I am going to place a camera on the garage to catch anyone entering from the "exit." Not sure yet where to place the third one. Anyway, I am thinking as I type and you're probably bored.

The other thing I intend to do is to search our bedroom and bath for anything out of place or that is new to me.

As I type that now I am beginning to think you all are mostly correct. I am just being paranoid. It has to the the eldest daughter, doesn't it. That makes so much more sense. And she's proven herself wily. I do love her though. We had such a nice day yesterday. K was her usually funny, loving self. The daughters were so happy to go see their Aunties that they didn't squabble. It felt good. I’ve never had a concern that my wife is might be stepping out. It is so far out of her “good girl” personality as to be laughable. I trust her completely. Plus I just don’t know when she would have time.

Someone asked about the health of the flower shop. It has been a strange year in business. I will post a more detailed response later, but it was a much better year than expected.

Okay, I will report back once my chores are complete. I know everyone is here for unhappy reasons, but I wish you all a happy Sunday.

If you trust her completely then why did you jump from toilet seat up to my wife must have had a man in the house?

 

[HommeNu]

Well, I have come down off of my family high from Saturday. Everything seemed fine yesterday, but really not really. Actually, now that I think about it, everyone was a little unsettled. We didn’t talk about it much, but the undercurrent was there. K took the girls shopping just before lunch which gave me most of the afternoon on my own. I spent most of the time trying to place the Arlo cameras. It was harder than I though it was going to be to put the cameras out of sight and still have clear lines of vision. I spent a fair amount of time on the ladder. I finished before anyone came home, but I did to have time to search the house, though I did find 5 different hairs in the Dyson. Joking

The cell phone bills show no significant increase in usage over the past 18 months, and there is no clear-cut favorite target of her text messages. The bulk of her messages are to her employees, the daughters, me, and a few girlfriends around the country. Dead end there.

I’ve decided to take all of your advice and focus on my wife for a while so I decided postpone the 2-day business trip I was going to take and stay home this week. When I told the family last night, my girls were thrilled because now I won’t miss their sports on Wednesday, but my wife just pursed her lips and asked why. She seemed irritated, but then shook it off. Honestly, I was disappointed at her response. It has me thinking. I think I will take her out for a surprise lunch tomorrow. Today, I will search the bedroom for the unknown unknowns while K is at work.

 

[HommeNu]

If you trust her completely then why did you jump from toilet seat up to my wife must have had a man in the house?

I wish I had a better response than "something just feels off." As someone suggested earlier, I decided that if I have not found any more red flags by the end of the week, I will pack this away as my paranoia and be done with it. The group-skepticism is actually kind of reassuring. Thank you.

 

[ccpowerslave]

When I told the family last night, my girls were thrilled because now I won’t miss their sports on Wednesday, but my wife just pursed her lips and asked why. She seemed irritated, but then shook it off. Honestly, I was disappointed at her response. It has me thinking.

My wife would react this way in the past. It was her generic form of, “Aren’t you supposed to be working?” Alternatively the, “You’re home early <frown>.” was her way of expressing displeasure at the thought I might be messing up my job.

 

[HommeNu]

I found a dildo. A very large, rather realistic dildo hidden high up behind a pile of sweaters at the top of her closet. It has been used, or at least it is out of the packaging and appears used. I've never seen it before. She has a "toy drawer" where she keeps her girl-gear, and I've never seen this before. It is huge. Like 9 inches long and a couple of inches in diameter. I don't know what to make of it. This is out of character for her. I also found a few pair of new thongs panties in her drawers. She hates thongs and refuses to wear them so I am not sure why she has any. These both feel like red flags to me. I am not sure I am going to be able to sleep tonight.

 

[Jeffsmith35]

Oh, no. I'm sorry. There are kits to make dildos using silicone molds that lovers send to each other. Keep digging.

 

[Al_Bundy]

I found a dildo. A very large, rather realistic dildo hidden high up behind a pile of sweaters at the top of her closet. It has been used, or at least it is out of the packaging and appears used. I've never seen it before. She has a "toy drawer" where she keeps her girl-gear, and I've never seen this before. It is huge. Like 9 inches long and a couple of inches in diameter. I don't know what to make of it. This is out of character for her. I also found a few pair of new thongs panties in her drawers. She hates thongs and refuses to wear them so I am not sure why she has any. These both feel like red flags to me. I am not sure I am going to be able to sleep tonight.

Be patient. Let the truth, whatever it is, become clear before you say anything else to her.

 

[Kamstel2]

I’m one of the people who say that if your gut is trying to tell you something, then there is probably something going on.

They make tiny video cameras that are very difficult to spot. you might want to buy one and set it up in your bedroom when you finally do go away on your next business trip or a VAR (voice activated recorder).

Wish you nothing but the best of luck.
Stay strong, keep your eyes and ears open, and your mouth shut.

good luck

 

[HommeNu]

Do you think I should ask her about these things? I've been feeling very discombobulated since I found it. Maybe I should just sit down and tell what I found and that I've been feeling off, and ask her to let me into her world again. I don't know. It is going to be hard to sleep imagining her using that thing. I can't believe that she does. She's "not a dildo person." Vibes yes, but not simple dildos yet she has this monster in her closet. So if it is not hers, who's is it and why is it here? No, it must be hers, right? Ugh.

 

[Al_Bundy]

Do you think I should ask her about these things? I've been feeling very discombobulated since I found it. Maybe I should just sit down and tell what I found and that I've been feeling off, and ask her to let me into her world again. I don't know. It is going to be hard to sleep imagining her using that thing. I can't believe that she does. She's "not a dildo person." Vibes yes, but not simple dildos yet she has this monster in her closet. So if it is not hers, who's is it and why is it here? No, it must be hers, right? Ugh.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Dude, I know it sucks, but keep quiet until you have undeniable proof. Otherwise you'll just push any possible bad behavior deeper underground.

 

[Elizabeth001]

I’m one of the people who say that if your gut is trying to tell you something, then there is probably something going on.

They make tiny video cameras that are very difficult to spot. you might want to buy one and set it up in your bedroom when you finally do go away on your next business trip or a VAR (voice activated recorder).

Wish you nothing but the best of luck.
Stay strong, keep your eyes and ears open, and your mouth shut.

good luck

Ditto


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[Elizabeth001]

Do you think I should ask her about these things? I've been feeling very discombobulated since I found it. Maybe I should just sit down and tell what I found and that I've been feeling off, and ask her to let me into her world again. I don't know. It is going to be hard to sleep imagining her using that thing. I can't believe that she does. She's "not a dildo person." Vibes yes, but not simple dildos yet she has this monster in her closet. So if it is not hers, who's is it and why is it here? No, it must be hers, right? Ugh.

She doesn’t use them with you. By herself? Perhaps. Keep this to yourself until you have more info.


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[jlg07]

Make sure you have some of the cameras where she may use that thing....

 

[Enigma32]

Do you think I should ask her about these things?

Never ask people questions unless you already know the answer. I'll explain. Let's say your wife really is up to no good and you ask her about it. She will lie and then you've gained nothing, you've just made her become more cautious. What you need to do is keep all suspicions to yourself and find out the truth on your own. If you've got the coin, I'd recommend hiring an investigator. If you don't have the money or just don't like that idea, then you should figure it out on your own. Maybe even bring your suspicions to a friend. Sometimes your friends know what is going on but don't want to tell you.

Is your wife active on social media? If she is cheating, then the person she is cheating with is likely on there. Maybe stalk her opposite sex friends pages a bit and see if there are any clues on there. Also, if she uses messenger apps to talk to them, it won't really show up on the phone bill.

If you conduct a thorough investigation and she is cleared, then let this stuff die off. If you find out for certain she is cheating or something, and you can prove it somehow, that's when you ask her what's going on just to see her reaction. By then, you should be preparing your divorce.