[Curious_Guy]

Now, I do hope that your wife is the exception to the rule, I really do. But I wouldn't count on it if I were you. If you are 100% sold on divorce, you really need to get her to move out of the house. Your chances of having this go the way you want it will improve dramatically. If she stays in the house, the reverse is true. There is a very realistic chance that at some point she does a 180 and goes for child support, full custody, use of the marital home, lawyers bills, alimony, and a restraining order against you. You've got a lot to lose...think each step through carefully.

Totally agree! BetrayedDad, are you leaning on keeping the house and the kids? If your wife keeps the house, chances are in matter of years that her lover may replace you as a father figure in the household. You don't want to lose time with your kids, all because of your wife's affair. You shouldn't be paying for her mistakes. She has to suffer the casualties she brought upon herself.

 

[krismimo]

A good way to show her she is not in control, go out a few nights a week get some new clothes, cologne and don't tell her where you're going. Even if you just go to the library instead of a bar. It shows a clear sign to her that you are moving on and she'll wonder if your doing some young hottie on the side.

I did that! Well not wearing cologne lol it drove my ex beyond nuts, he would blow up my phone, around the first time I caught him cheating I was invited to a huge kick back party he asked if he could come I looked at him and said no you can't. I got my things and didn't show back home.... until the next day. I didnt' want my friends to drink and drive. he was moping until I got home he had the nerve to be mad, but I didn't care. The weird thing that threw me off was that he tried to jump my bones when I got back home. I was very confused, anyways BD if you do this don't be surprised if she tries to sleep with you. I think it's a mental thing if they see you going on with your life and your making yourself "available" to someone else the possessiveness part kicks in.

 

[krismimo]

BD,

I can't take credit for this but I saw someone post this suggestion several times, if your ex is truly sorry than divorce wouldn't be a issue she would take things slow with you and see if you can date even after the divorce. But only if your up to it and if that is what you want and you see she is making a huge effort, and you can forgive her. (That is the biggest hurdle). You can forgive someone and stay together, or forgive them and move on without them. It's all about being honest with yourself.

 

[BetrayedDad]

Update: OM told my WS that he asked his wife to separate because things weren't working out. (I doubt he mentioned the affair). Do you think this is a ruse to drag out the affair? It's a pretty ridiculous lie if it's true. The WS is totally buying into it and it looks like she's planning to get an apartment soon. That's fine I still want the divorce. My hope was he would dump her for at least some type of karma. Maybe he is as deluded as she is after all?

In any event I guess I'm going to expose to OMW now because I don't think she's working right now. So she can at least know the truth and take him to the cleaners in court.

 

[tom67]

Update: OM told my WS that he asked his wife to separate because things weren't working out. (I doubt he mentioned the affair). Do you think this is a ruse to drag out the affair? It's a pretty ridiculous lie if it's true. The WS is totally buying into it and it looks like she's planning to get an apartment soon. That's fine I still want the divorce. My hope was he would dump her for at least some type of karma. Maybe he is as deluded as she is after all?

In any event I guess I'm going to expose to OMW now because I don't think she's working right now. So she can at least know the truth and take him to the cleaners in court.

YEEEEESSSS!!:iagree::iagree::iagree::iagree: Let her rape him in court please for all that is good!:smthumbup:

 

[tom67]

That's why we were saying to expose early. Let us know what happens I'll bet she'll thank you with a big fat kiss.

 

[Chaparral]

And put him on cheaterville.com now and send him the link, including the google link. This is why you don't wait to expose. It gives them time to get heir ducks in a row.

 

[LostViking]

Do it!
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[tom67]

Send the cheaterville link to his bosses and get his @rse fired.

 

[tom67]

Do it!
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I'm glad it sank in for him good way to end the week.

 

[wilderness]

Update: OM told my WS that he asked his wife to separate because things weren't working out. (I doubt he mentioned the affair). Do you think this is a ruse to drag out the affair? It's a pretty ridiculous lie if it's true. The WS is totally buying into it and it looks like she's planning to get an apartment soon. That's fine I still want the divorce. My hope was he would dump her for at least some type of karma. Maybe he is as deluded as she is after all?

In any event I guess I'm going to expose to OMW now because I don't think she's working right now. So she can at least know the truth and take him to the cleaners in court.

Time to call his wife and find out the real deal.

 

[Tobyboy]

....and don't tell your cheating wife your exposing!
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[Chaparral]

Get her some boxes.

 

[tom67]

I hope his w kicks his @ss out tonight!

 

[3putt]

I hope his w kicks his @ss out tonight!

I'm betting someone else gets kicked to the curb tonight.

ETA- Hell, maybe even both!

 

[tom67]

I wonder if it went well it's gotta be tough.

 

[tom67]

OP you doing ok?

 

[BetrayedDad]

Sorry for the delay in my reply. I exposed to the OMW. I went to her house while he was at work to tell her and I felt really sorry for her. She seemed very nice. It went as well as one would of hoped considering and she was holding her new born baby in her arms the whole time so it was really sad. She deserved to know and I was glad I told her cause the POS would never have. I didn't take any enjoyment in it at all. Just felt sorry for the OMW.

 

[LostViking]

Wow. That is heavy.

Has there been any fallout yet?
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[Shaggy]

When your WW confronts you - don't get into a debate defending exposure. Just say you told the truth to someone who had a right to know.

Then turn and walk away, or stop responding to her txts and calls