[skerzoid]

1. I always consider whether the Wayward seems truly remorseful or even regretful. In this case, the good doctor never even apologized.

2. She is making 40 grand a month. That is almost half a million a year.

3. He gave up his future to assure hers.

4. She needs a lesson. Punitive damages in this case. If she committed malpractice, what would the damages run into?

5. I rank infidelity in the top three abuses: Murder, Rape, and Infidelity. It drives some to commit murder or suicide. It ruins entire families. It destroys kids. It spreads deadly diseases. This woman needs to be punished where it hurts: in this case her pocketbook. She needs to be made an example of.

6. Your outrage borders on hypocrisy.

 

[oldtruck]

For those of you who didn't catch it, this is a dig at how uneducated you are, since you probably don't even know how to spell "riddance".

We should feel honored, however briefly, to have one of the elite among us. You see, you guys are so wrong that she's compelled to denigrate you. but make no mistake, it's you who are looking "biased and desperate", not her. She'll take her marbles and go home now. That'll teach you yokels.

Unfortunately the Spelling Nazis are still with us and well as the
Grammar Gestapo.

Whether a person does not spell well, or chooses to spell colloquially to
emphasize a point I will not judge

 

[Rubix Cubed]

Sorry for the thread jack....but

I can't spell so please spell it out.


Seriously I don't even know what misadrist or misgnyo even means


Come on RC you know me...I'm from redneckistan and need a little help.

T/J over.

What's denigrate mean?

mis·an·dry
miˈsandrē/Submit
noun
dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against men (i.e., the male sex).
"her brand of feminism is just poorly disguised misandry"

mi·sog·y·ny
məˈsäjənē/Submit
noun
dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.
"she felt she was struggling against thinly disguised misogyny"


den·i·grate
ˈdenəˌɡrāt/Submit
verb
criticize unfairly; disparage.
"there is a tendency to denigrate the poor"
synonyms: disparage, belittle, deprecate, decry, cast aspersions on, criticize, attack; More

Us redneckistanians have to stick together.

 

[the guy]

OMG!
How can any one R with these kind of nouns and verbs be used against them?

Granted there are nouns and verbs that a wayward can implement to R the betrayal, but when there is this kind of DISREPECT...…

 

[FloridaGuy123]

Done

Successful mediation. I'll get $7k a month for half the length of the marriage. Her initial offer was $500. 500. There was crying and screaming from her room. I felt bad as this is my wife and I love her, but she was finally being held accountable for really bad treatment of me.

She walked by at one point and mouthed the words "I'm sorry" through the glass wall. I just nodded my head.

I get my dog!. I traded away over $10k for that little ****er. Worth it every time.

When it was all said and done, it hurts like hell and I miss her. I suppose both will decrease with time. I still don't know WTF happened in our marriage. I guess the answer is she revealed her true self.

One day I will write a "how I handled it" thread if you think it might be useful.

 

[lucy999]

Done

Successful mediation. I'll get $7k a month for half the length of the marriage. Her initial offer was $500. 500. There was crying and screaming from her room. I felt bad as this is my wife and I love her, but she was finally being held accountable for really bad treatment of me.

She walked by at one point and mouthed the words "I'm sorry" through the glass wall. I just nodded my head.

I get my dog!. I traded away over $10k for that little ****er. Worth it every time.

When it was all said and done, it hurts like hell and I miss her. I suppose both will decrease with time. I still don't know WTF happened in our marriage. I guess the answer is she revealed her true self.

One day I will write a "how I handled it" thread if you think it might be useful.

I think congratulations are in order, despite the hurt you are feeling. I am elated about you getting your dog!

Good job. I think your idea about that thread is a good one.

 

[badmemory]

Good for you FG. You stayed the course and it payed off. I'm happy for you.

Now, spend that money wisely, but use some of it to get something you've always wanted. I'm sure better days are ahead for you.

 

[Kamstel]

Are you happy with it? I know that you would rather be happily married, but are you pleased with the deal?


Was there a non-disclosure clause?

Are you going to report her issue, whatever it was to State licensing board?

Hope you are ok. Yes, there will be plenty of bad days ahead, but you should know that you handled yourself very well.

I hope you will continue to post here on your future endeavors as this board needs examples of strong men who refuse to be a weak individual who can be used, abused, and taken advantage of by their cheating spouse.

Enjoy the next chapter of your life!

 

[Robert22205]

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry for your loss . Congratulations on the outcome.

Can you disclose the potential or theoretical amount she might have been ordered to pay if you let a judge decide (vs settle)?

Can you share what type of evidence you collected as well as any lessons learned in all this (or other advice) that may help the next victim?

Anything you can share will be appreciated!

Cheers!!!

 

[Faithful Wife]

Done

Successful mediation. I'll get $7k a month for half the length of the marriage. Her initial offer was $500. 500. There was crying and screaming from her room. I felt bad as this is my wife and I love her, but she was finally being held accountable for really bad treatment of me.

She walked by at one point and mouthed the words "I'm sorry" through the glass wall. I just nodded my head.

I get my dog!. I traded away over $10k for that little ****er. Worth it every time.

When it was all said and done, it hurts like hell and I miss her. I suppose both will decrease with time. I still don't know WTF happened in our marriage. I guess the answer is she revealed her true self.

One day I will write a "how I handled it" thread if you think it might be useful.

Yes please do one day write the how I handled it thread. You handled it perfectly, even though the whole time you were very hurt and wished this all wasn’t happening.

In the meantime, please keep posting here or over in the divorced section to get help as you recover from this. It will take some time.

 

[stro]

You should definitely post about how you got through it at some point. You’ve done a textbook job.

I’m curious of you feel like you need closure from her. Not that she would offer it up but basically explanation from her of what the hell hapened. Or are you just content getting on with your life?

 

[Dyokemm]

Initial offer $500 a month.....

Final settlement of $7,000 per month.....

I guess she took one look at the evidence your lawyer presented and KNEW she was dead....caught red-handed.

And then it hit her that fighting would lead to full exposure......and an accompanying TOTAL humiliation in front of all friends and family when they saw physical proof of her disgusting behavior.

Glad for you she opted to accept a fair offer.....

Hope there is not a clause that would prevent you from exposing OM to his BW and job......DESTROY that POSOM for even daring to involve himself in turning your life upside down.....

That POS deserves everything you can send his way.

 

[Marc878]

Done

Successful mediation. I'll get $7k a month for half the length of the marriage. Her initial offer was $500. 500. There was crying and screaming from her room. I felt bad as this is my wife and I love her, but she was finally being held accountable for really bad treatment of me.

Poor muffin. I wouldn't feel to bad for her. It's early yet but you'll reflect back later and be glad you got away.

She walked by at one point and mouthed the words "I'm sorry" through the glass wall. I just nodded my head.

Meaningless. Words don't mean much. Her actions were deplorable.

I get my dog!. I traded away over $10k for that little ****er. Worth it every time.

When it was all said and done, it hurts like hell and I miss her. I suppose both will decrease with time. I still don't know WTF happened in our marriage. I guess the answer is she revealed her true self.

Time and complete no contact will fix this

One day I will write a "how I handled it" thread if you think it might be useful.

Take care man you did great

 

[honcho]

Done

Successful mediation. I'll get $7k a month for half the length of the marriage. Her initial offer was $500. 500. There was crying and screaming from her room. I felt bad as this is my wife and I love her, but she was finally being held accountable for really bad treatment of me.

She walked by at one point and mouthed the words "I'm sorry" through the glass wall. I just nodded my head.

I get my dog!. I traded away over $10k for that little ****er. Worth it every time.

When it was all said and done, it hurts like hell and I miss her. I suppose both will decrease with time. I still don't know WTF happened in our marriage. I guess the answer is she revealed her true self.

One day I will write a "how I handled it" thread if you think it might be useful.

Don't dwell on the wtf happened it only holds you back. Glad you got a good settlement and you got the dog. The ONLY thing my crazy ex didn't fight me on were the dogs....

 

[Tatsuhiko]

The glass window apology doesn't jibe with the screaming about having to pay maintenance. People who are truly sorry have no problem paying restitution their victim. I'd dismiss her words as meaningless. But it's not your problem anymore, thank God.

 

[manfromlamancha]

I think she got off very very lightly. You were married for 42 months and she pays 7K X 21 months. Less than $150K in total for what she cost you and based on what she earns!

Still well done on this and the dog!
Take care

 

[MattMatt]

@FloridaGuy123

Well done.

As far as the OM goes, did she even tell him she was married?

 

[Kamstel]

Why the crying? Was this the first time she saw all the evidence you gathered?

 

[Taxman]

I am interested in the crying and screaming. Did her entitlement wash away when evidence was presented? Did her lawyer read her the riot act? I am always interested in the guilty party having their comeuppance.

 

[Decorum]

She walked by at one point and mouthed the words "I'm sorry" through the glass wall. I just nodded my head.

I doubt the "I'm sorry" had much to do with her infidelity.

If @Taxman is right, her lawyer got in her face for making them both look bad, by her lying, greed, and dishonesty.

From her lawyer's perspective she is not much different that a business person who has been outed for cheating or embezzling on their business partner.

In the face of her lawyer's condemnation, with no place to hide, she had to admit, if only for a second, that she tried to screw you, and now everybody knew it.

Her POS tendencies were on public display.

"I'm sorry"- Oh goodness!