[Ikaika]

If this is not my child... which there is not much of a chance... I will run. Far, far away from this despicable betrayer that is my wife. I've expressed that I want a paternity test and it will be done when the child is born. I've looked at the emails and chat records and its probably my child. The affair had not started up. We were actively trying to get pregnant.

I'm trying to figure out what to do with our daughter. An option I am considering is leaving this wretched town. My wife and I moved to Atlanta right after we married. I'm originally from Texas and I think I would like to go home. My wife is the only person that I know here and we moved here because we were starting a life together. Clearly not the case.

I don't want to deal with her for the next 18 years. I don't want to raise a child with a woman like my wife. I haven't talked to a lawyer yet but I think I might go full custody - which is probably extremely unlikely - or bust. I don't want to tie myself to my **** wife forever. I need to move on. If its my child I'll pay child support but then move on with my life. I'm not going to be able to raise this child the way I want to. I won't be able to overrule her mother. I don't want to get connected and bonded to this child who I won't be able to see whenever I want and I won't be able to raise full-time.

I talked to my mother about this earlier tonight. She is furious and she is being very supportive of me. I asked her not to talk to my wife yet but suffice to say she hates her guts.

I'm starting the task of talking to everyone I need to. Appointment for the first consultation is tomorrow afternoon.

Thank you for all of your help. I know I haven't posted much but I've read everything and the advice and outpouring of support has meant so much to me.

I certainly respect your decision... Again I'm really sorry this is something you had to go through... Talk to your lawyer about getting a chorionic villi sample to run the prenatal test. In my experience better to know before the child is born.. I fully support the notion of getting full custody, your WW has proven to be less than capable parent. Take care

 

[Shaggy]

Have you thrown out the bed in the trash?

I'm also curious about what your wife is saying and doing now?

 

[Ikaika]

BTW If the child is yours have your WW tested for strep B... Sex during late stage pregnancy can is easily passed into the vaginal cavity and can cause complications in the newborn...

 

[CleanJerkSnatch]

Have you thrown out the bed in the trash?

I'm also curious about what your wife is saying and doing now?

Definitely
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[Am I Dreaming?]

What is my wife saying or doing right now?

Putting on an Academy Award worthy performance of grief and regret. If I had any emotions left for her I might be convinced. But I don't. My heart is hard to her.

Just a bunch of empty promises and a ton, ton of tears. She swears she didn't want it. She didn't like it. It wasn't her idea. She will never betray me again. Think about our daughter. Don't leave me. Give me a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. Do you still love me? I never lost my love for you. I'll always love you. Just a bunch of bull**** like that.

**** her.

 

[Ikaika]

What is my wife saying or doing right now?

Putting on an Academy Award worthy performance of grief and regret. If I had any emotions left for her I might be convinced. But I don't. My heart is hard to her.

Just a bunch of empty promises and a ton, ton of tears. She swears she didn't want it. She didn't like it. It wasn't her idea. She will never betray me again. Think about our daughter. Don't leave me. Give me a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. Do you still love me? I never lost my love for you. I'll always love you. Just a bunch of bull**** like that.

**** her.

yuck yuck yuck... Oh man... I mean it have the lawyer enforce a chorionic villi sampling test... This being your decision, you don't want to be waiting around for a test after the baby is born. Unlike the movies it does not happen the next day... trust me, I have run similar test myself as a molecular biologist. To ensure that it is validated could take upward to three weeks.

 

[CleanJerkSnatch]

What is my wife saying or doing right now?

Putting on an Academy Award worthy performance of grief and regret. If I had any emotions left for her I might be convinced. But I don't. My heart is hard to her.

Just a bunch of empty promises and a ton, ton of tears. She swears she didn't want it. She didn't like it. It wasn't her idea. She will never betray me again. Think about our daughter. Don't leave me. Give me a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. Do you still love me? I never lost my love for you. I'll always love you. Just a bunch of bull**** like that.

**** her.

She should have thought of the consequences and how she/you would feel before her decision. "I never lost my love for you"?

"Thanks i know, i can tell, your methods of showing love are sickening"
Actions define a person, not words
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[Vanguard]

If this is not my child... which there is not much of a chance... I will run. Far, far away from this despicable betrayer that is my wife. I've expressed that I want a paternity test and it will be done when the child is born. I've looked at the emails and chat records and its probably my child. The affair had not started up. We were actively trying to get pregnant.

I'm trying to figure out what to do with our daughter. An option I am considering is leaving this wretched town. My wife and I moved to Atlanta right after we married. I'm originally from Texas and I think I would like to go home. My wife is the only person that I know here and we moved here because we were starting a life together. Clearly not the case.

I don't want to deal with her for the next 18 years. I don't want to raise a child with a woman like my wife. I haven't talked to a lawyer yet but I think I might go full custody - which is probably extremely unlikely - or bust. I don't want to tie myself to my **** wife forever. I need to move on. If its my child I'll pay child support but then move on with my life. I'm not going to be able to raise this child the way I want to. I won't be able to overrule her mother. I don't want to get connected and bonded to this child who I won't be able to see whenever I want and I won't be able to raise full-time.

I talked to my mother about this earlier tonight. She is furious and she is being very supportive of me. I asked her not to talk to my wife yet but suffice to say she hates her guts.

I'm starting the task of talking to everyone I need to. Appointment for the first consultation is tomorrow afternoon.

Thank you for all of your help. I know I haven't posted much but I've read everything and the advice and outpouring of support has meant so much to me.

Good for you, brother. A word of advice-- don't go to your lawyer telling him what you want to do. Ask him what you CAN do. He'll be able to give you some options, hopefully some that will help you screw her over like she deserves.

 

[Vanguard]

What is my wife saying or doing right now?

Putting on an Academy Award worthy performance of grief and regret. If I had any emotions left for her I might be convinced. But I don't. My heart is hard to her.

Just a bunch of empty promises and a ton, ton of tears. She swears she didn't want it. She didn't like it. It wasn't her idea. She will never betray me again. Think about our daughter. Don't leave me. Give me a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. Do you still love me? I never lost my love for you. I'll always love you. Just a bunch of bull**** like that.

**** her.

Seriously dude. GOD are you going to be so much happier. God bless you man. In the long run you're helping her- you're helping her understand that actions have consequences, and the worst kinds of actions bring with them the worst repercussions. But that is only a residual element- the important part is, you're helping yourself.

 

[Ikaika]

Cheater's song (at least the verse)

 

[warlock07]

just a word of caution. Don't stress her out until child birth. Might be dangerous to both of their health. And she might be in very state of mind now. So be tact in your approach. tell her you haven't made a decision yet or something like that.

 

[Kasler]

^ Lets not give mixed signals, plus having to play nice with this woman would probably kill him a bit on the inside.

Or he may try and then get too angry and just unload everything.

 

[dymo]

Yeah, I don't know if withholding the truth is doing the child a favor. Telling her now may stress her during pregnancy, but she does need to adjust and prepare for the fact she will be single-handedly raising their child.

Neither is a great option, but it seems kinder to tell her while she only needs to take care of herself, rather than when she needs to also care for an infant.
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[Jonesey]

You're kidding right?

:iagree::scratchhead:

 

[Jonesey]

What is my wife saying or doing right now?

Putting on an Academy Award worthy performance of grief and regret. If I had any emotions left for her I might be convinced. But I don't. My heart is hard to her.

Just a bunch of empty promises and a ton, ton of tears. She swears she didn't want it. She didn't like it. It wasn't her idea. She will never betray me again. Think about our daughter. Don't leave me. Give me a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. Do you still love me? I never lost my love for you. I'll always love you. Just a bunch of bull**** like that.

**** her.

Standard bull crap talk..The bolded one .. Priceless

 

[dogman]

What is my wife saying or doing right now?

Putting on an Academy Award worthy performance of grief and regret. If I had any emotions left for her I might be convinced. But I don't. My heart is hard to her.

Just a bunch of empty promises and a ton, ton of tears. She swears she didn't want it. She didn't like it. It wasn't her idea. She will never betray me again. Think about our daughter. Don't leave me. Give me a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. Do you still love me? I never lost my love for you. I'll always love you. Just a bunch of bull**** like that.

**** her.

Didn't lik it? That's why it went from Friday afternoon till Sunday morning. That the maximum she could get for that one weekend.

Bu!!**** alert!

 

[Humble Pie]

The emails started around March

How she temporarily lost her mind.

So she TEMPORARILY lost her mind since March she means?

This is horrible, I am sorry you are here bro.

 

[Humble Pie]

What is my wife saying or doing right now?

Putting on an Academy Award worthy performance of grief and regret. If I had any emotions left for her I might be convinced. But I don't. My heart is hard to her.

Just a bunch of empty promises and a ton, ton of tears. She swears she didn't want it. She didn't like it. It wasn't her idea. She will never betray me again. Think about our daughter. Don't leave me. Give me a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. Do you still love me? I never lost my love for you. I'll always love you. Just a bunch of bull**** like that.

**** her.

In a way it kinda makes you feel more hatred toward her...

Damm I dont even know you and I am pissed! sorry, i really feel for you.

 

[Count of Monte Cristo]

Yeah, I don't know if withholding the truth is doing the child a favor. Telling her now may stress her during pregnancy, but she does need to adjust and prepare for the fact she will be single-handedly raising their child.

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I agree with Warlock on not stressing her out too much. The goal is to have her deliver a healthy baby - whether it's OP's or not.

 

[Hicks]

Can you talk her into putting the baby up for adoption?
I think that is the best option for the child.
Possibly you can tell her that you will get back with her if she agrees to go that route, and once it's official you divorce her.