[snerg]

Anything else would be pretty much of a stretch

I see what you did there

 

[HommeNu]

It's been a minute. First an update. I decided to go ahead and surprise K for an early lunch yesterday. At first it was great. She was totally surprised, and seemed pleased to see me. We went around the corner to a favorite little pub where I had my favorite local burger. We even sat next to each other like teenagers rather than across from each other. It was really nice. I walked her back to her shop afterwards and we talked a little about her business. She's having trouble getting flowers in from Asia. I know she is stressed about it. That was the "good." Than I asked her if she wanted to come home for a post-lunch nooner, but she took a pass saying she had to meet some staff which disappointed me. One of her general complaints is that our sex life is not spontaneous enough and here I cancelled a trip, surprised her with lunch, and offered her afternoon delight in our empty house and she said no. Then reminded me that the house was not guaranteed empty because the kids are just out and about. That was the "bad." Our intimacy still seems out of sync. On another note, our weekly delivery of flowers was delivered while I was out. I asked K how the delivery guy got into the house if the girls aren't there to let him in. She said that she keeps a key to the side door on the wall at the shop and the delivery guy takes it and lets himself in. So there is that question answered.

Someone asked about the delivery drivers. Let's call them Tom and Jerry. Tom is in his mid 20s, an inked skater-type, seems a little lost in the fog of dope, ambitious-less, but super-cute according to my daughters. He has a girlfriend. Jerry is 10+ years older, I'd guess, a little rough, short, mostly lazy, gadfly about town kind of guy. He seems to know everyone everywhere he goes. He has a wife who is clearly the main breadwinner based upon what my wife pays him. It is hard to imagine either of them with K. Tom is so young much closer to our children's ages and Jerry is so, well, rough. God, even as I type the I can hear the English phrase "she likes a bit of rough" in my head. Hmm. I was already to dismiss the drivers but now want to rethink Jerry. Back to the cell phone records I go now that I have a number I could focus on.

The rest of the night was mostly unremarkable. K was a little grumbly, but so were the kids so who knows. I had hoped K might belatedly take me up on my nooner offer, but she was not interested and rolled over as soon as I climbed into bed. I told her this morning that I thought that was an odd reaction after the good day we had, but she said she was PMSing. Now back to mining the phone bills. I am also looking for her computer password list--the paper backup. I think the youngest might know where it is. But I don't really want to involve her.

 

[re16]

Good update, glad you resisted confronting.

The no on the nooner could really be she had something scheduled... but could be part of something broader.

Keep digging but don't accuse / question her yet. I agree with others that you don't want to do damage over something that we're not sure is real.

Now at least you know that other males have access to your house and that could explain the toilet seat. Seems like you would know about anyone who has access to your house though...

 

[Lostinthought61]

have you thought of putting a camera in the house ? so you can see the coming and going in the house?

also have you thought of hiding the giant dildo on her and see what she say?

 

[re16]

also have you thought of hiding the giant dildo on her and see what she say?

Thats a conversation starter....

 

[maquiscat]

On another note, our weekly delivery of flowers was delivered while I was out. I asked K how the delivery guy got into the house if the girls aren't there to let him in. She said that she keeps a key to the side door on the wall at the shop and the delivery guy takes it and lets himself in. So there is that question answered.

Given this, I'm wondering if the whole toilet seat things is simply one of the drivers used that bathroom, and your wife not daughters are not having anyone untowards over.

 

[cocolo2019]

Hiding the dildo could create the stage for a confrontation.
It is better to lay low while investigating.

 

[re16]

I would likely wait a while to discuss anything about what you found and just stay watchful, like for a couple of months...

 

[Willnotbill]

It's been a minute. First an update. I decided to go ahead and surprise K for an early lunch yesterday. At first it was great. She was totally surprised, and seemed pleased to see me. We went around the corner to a favorite little pub where I had my favorite local burger. We even sat next to each other like teenagers rather than across from each other. It was really nice. I walked her back to her shop afterwards and we talked a little about her business. She's having trouble getting flowers in from Asia. I know she is stressed about it. That was the "good." Than I asked her if she wanted to come home for a post-lunch nooner, but she took a pass saying she had to meet some staff which disappointed me. One of her general complaints is that our sex life is not spontaneous enough and here I cancelled a trip, surprised her with lunch, and offered her afternoon delight in our empty house and she said no. Then reminded me that the house was not guaranteed empty because the kids are just out and about. That was the "bad." Our intimacy still seems out of sync. On another note, our weekly delivery of flowers was delivered while I was out. I asked K how the delivery guy got into the house if the girls aren't there to let him in. She said that she keeps a key to the side door on the wall at the shop and the delivery guy takes it and lets himself in. So there is that question answered.

Since you mentioned your sex life is a little off right now you might try asking her what you (both of you) could do to help. You could ask her if she would like to try a new toy and go online together and look at the Adam and Eve catalog. Show her different things including the bigger dildos. Don't fixate on it just use it as another option and see what she has to say. She might surprise you and show you what she already bought. The more I read your story the less I think she's stepping out.

 

[Galabar01]

Could one of the delivery drivers just used the toilet and left the seat up (during a delivery)?

 

[Jeffsmith35]

Why the delivery driver would go all the way upstairs vs. using the more convenient and closer toilet location is the lingering red flag.

 

[Jeffsmith35]

My guess is Tom.

 

[mickybill]

That's something Jerry would totally do.

 

[ccpowerslave]

Tom & Jerry the classic duo.

Hopefully nobody!

 

[Wolfman1968]

Yes, next week. I will be leaving on Tuesday, back on Thursday, and they will be in camps. I am not sure I can wait a week to find out though. This is eating me up inside. I just want to go confront her and ask her for some explanations.

NOOOOOOO!!!!

Read the Weightlifter's Standard Evidence Post

 

[Blondilocks]

Your wife does know that a driver could make a duplicate of the key, doesn't she? That's rather careless security wise - you have kids in the house. Wonder how many keys to that door are floating around. I'd re-key it.

 

[Willnotbill]

Your wife does know that a driver could make a duplicate of the key, doesn't she? That's rather careless security wise - you have kids in the house. Wonder how many keys to that door are floating around. I'd re-key it.

I agree with this. Just for the safety of your family I would re-key the house locks. I don't think its a good idea to let employees or anyone outside the immediate family have access to your house keys.

 

[Jeffsmith35]

"Tom is in his mid 20s, an inked skater-type, seems a little lost in the fog of dope, ambitious-less, but super-cute according to my daughters"...

I just had a thought: Could it be that Tom is visiting your oldest daughter?

 

[In Absentia]

The no on the nooner could really be she had something scheduled... but could be part of something broader.

It's probably because she thought he surprised her with a nice lunch with an ulterior motive: to get in her knickers.

 

[mickybill]

I sort of see you heading for a cliff and hope that you take breath before going over it.

If you are willing to blow things up before your trip, that's up to you, but I sure hope you rethink that plan. Seriously, drop a bomb like that and then leave town? Not cool bro.
If you have no real evidence and accuse her of infidelity it may take years for the trust to come back if she did not stray, but if she did...

On one hand your only "evidence" is seeing the toilet seat up...no empty beer cans and Xtra Jumbo sized condom wrappers in the trash. No neighbor saying they see a yellow Porsche 911 in your driveway on the days when you are out of town. Not even dudes hanging around with your daughters. The big toy might be her naughty pleasure or it may remind her of her lover. But I think it is just a thing she may use when you are out of town every week...but she seems to like it when you are home again.
On the other hand you are here on an infidelity site. Something brought you here and it must be more than the toilet seat...This site is great and full of people who have experienced infidelity so there can be a "If all you have is a hammer everything looks like a nail" thought process.
Many people with small businesses have been under a lot of pressure the last year...a flower shop (with a supply chain to Asia) may have made $$$ doing weddings and events in 2019 but not 2020, events are only now coming back. So maybe the lunch was fun and a nice break but the nooner was a bit too spontaneous that day for a multitude of reasons, for example my GF likes to have a meal after sex, not before.
But I'm afraid some here would say that if she did take you up the nooner opportunity, it would prove she was having an affair...

Sorry for the wall of text and I could be totally wrong, she may be having an affair. Anything is possible. If I was judge I'd say go get me some real evidence then come back. Maybe your new cameras will have the answer.

Good luck