Well, a lot of questions and comments to consider.
First, I agree that this is all geared to money and another consideration which I haven't mentioned; her desire to get another degree. (My position affords her with essentially tuition free education in our states university systems). I am not so naive as to be fooled by the outflow of "honey" recently. I am continuing the divorce and plan to have her out in December.
Interestingly, the pre-nup was initially her idea. I have had a modicum of success financially and when we started dating seriously she brought up the idea. As we approached the wedding, she wanted to scratch the pre-nup but went along when I told her it was important to my sense of attachment.
I am really not checking on her anymore. I have gotten to the point where I really don't care and as late as 1 1/2 weeks ago I know she was with her paramour.
I hope it doesn't get ugly; but, I'm sure she is going to be very unhappy. There are no signs of true remorse in my mind and no hint of real transparency at all.
And it is true, I am not really angry at her at this point. I am sad that the relationship has come to this end, angry at myself for not recognizing the affairs and for allowing her to continue her "work" in a distant city.
