[donesies]

No dating advice from me but I noticed in your updates you never once said you loved her. You said she’s nice and you really like her. I think that’s very telling. Together 6 years.

I do love her...it'll change over time of course, but this definitely hurts

 

[donesies]

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[DudeInProgress]

It doesn’t seem like you learned very much from your last situation, or this one so far. Seems like you’re still operating from a very “nice guy“ mindset and continue to allow yourself to be a quasi-doormat.

 

[IJustWantToKnow234]

It doesn’t seem like you learned very much from your last situation, or this one so far. Seems like you’re still operating from a very “nice guy“ mindset and continue to allow yourself to be a quasi-doormat.

I think even he is a high achiever (the practice, the medical school and specialization, running and training for marathons), he is a bit on the spectrum in a way.
That may explain the social part where he lacks/awkward.
Also, he was warned about the last lady, 6 years ago. He still choose her.
Combination of fixer + needing someone?
Honestly, he should either use a good matchmaker or look for someone in the medical profession as they speak the same "language" and know the same challenges: long hours, stress, sleeps 4 hours in 48.

 

[Pogre]

Well now. I wasn't around when you first started posting here, but I spent the last 2 days reading your thread from the beginning and it's quite a story! Congratulations on getting out of a bad situation as quickly, decisively, and painlessly as you did. I mean, I know it wasn't entirely painless, far from it, but could have been so much worse.

A very religious person and a non religious person (I'm not religious at all, but have spent a lot of time examining religions) tend to not mix well over the long haul. I think she's doing you a favor. I know it sucks, and you're probably pretty hurt, but once again you're getting out relatively unscathed aside from the emotional bruising.

You're 42 now. That's not that old. You're likely still in your prime as 40 is now the new 30. There are plenty of other women out there for you man. Just take it easy and don't try to jump into anything super serious right away. Play the field, keep it casual, and let them come to you. And they will come to you. You have a lot going for you so don't sell yourself short.

That said, I appreciated this thread. You're a good inspiration for folks caught up in similar situations.