Disclaimer: I'm not in cuckold relationship, and have no desire to adopt one.
I don't remember exactly when I first heard about this particular kink, but I've had a growing interest. As stated, having just figured myself out, throwing out the vast majority of my "nice guy" behavior, I've no desire to become involved. It does however hold a kind of perverse fascination for me.
Additionally, I've just picked up Robert Glover's, No More Mr. Nice Guy - about two weeks too late to serve as anything other than validation and confirmation of my own feelings and the changes that I've made - but, reading it has got me wondering if the growing popularity of the cuckold lifestyle is a kind of extreme result of the "nice guy" phenomena.
For those who don't know about the lifestyle, I'll give a bit of a primer.
This particular kink seems to be popular among white middle-aged, middle-class married couples, but it's by no means limited to these folks. There's a number of ways to fall into it, but it seems that it's most basic form is that of an open marriage where it's only the woman who sleeps around. She's the "hot-wife;" a sexually aggressive, promiscuous, dominating and typically attractive woman who actively seeks out and pursues purely sexual relationships with strong, alpha male "bulls." This is done with the full knowledge, acceptance and support of her "****" or "cuckold" husband.
Naturally, there are a lot of trappings that go along with this kind of arrangement which may or may not be present. For a few examples: There seems to be a predilection for black male bulls, as they seem to be perceived as being physically superior to the **** husband. Penis size seems to be a major fixation; part of the ****'s inadequacy is his relatively small or average penis. Sometimes, but not always, the **** is expected, or expects to watch the bull have sex with the hot-wife. The **** may be expected to orally service his hot-wife after the bull has had his way with her.
This is just to name a few.
Now, promiscuity among women is nothing new to the human species. If our literary history is any indication, there used to be a lot of concern about female promiscuity. In Shakespeare, and many other writings, it would seem that a cuckold is an object of ridicule and derision by social custom. Such a male is perceived as weak and unmanly of course.
What seems to be different about the modern incarnation of the cuckold lifestyle is that husbands are actively embracing this activity. Having lurked on a few of their forums, it seems that these husbands often encourage their partners to go out and have extra-marital affairs. They seem to WANT to be sexually humiliated by their wives, and the lovers that their wives often bring home. And what makes me think, is that while fetishes and kinks are a relatively normal part of the human sexual spectrum, this is a whole lifestyle that seems to go well beyond kinky sex. That, and it seems to be growing in popularity by leaps and bounds.
The mask seems to have slipped off this lifestyle in recent months. Jack King was, or is, a Manitoba lawyer who asked a former client to have sex with his wife. This story wouldn't have amounted to much these days, but for the fact that the wife in question is, or was, a recently appointed Manitoba judge. I've not followed the story much, so please excuse the lack of details. It's been widely publicized if anyone feels like digging up the dirt.
So, the question I'm pondering now is, isn't this lifestyle an extreme manifestation of the "nice guy" phenomena? It seems that these submissive males can't accept themselves, and have chosen instead to wallow in a kind of self-deprecating depravity.
It also occurs to me that if this is so, and if this is indeed gaining wider and wider popularity, then western culture seems to be in serious trouble. Emasculated males are males who strike me as being incapable of "manning up" and doing the hard things that men have always done. To have such an apparently large population of them is a bit disturbing.
So, I'm putting it out to those who think about marriage as much and as deeply as I do.
What do you folks think about the cuckold lifestyle? Is it essentially just the "nice guy" phenomena taken to its logical extent?
I don't remember exactly when I first heard about this particular kink, but I've had a growing interest. As stated, having just figured myself out, throwing out the vast majority of my "nice guy" behavior, I've no desire to become involved. It does however hold a kind of perverse fascination for me.
Additionally, I've just picked up Robert Glover's, No More Mr. Nice Guy - about two weeks too late to serve as anything other than validation and confirmation of my own feelings and the changes that I've made - but, reading it has got me wondering if the growing popularity of the cuckold lifestyle is a kind of extreme result of the "nice guy" phenomena.
For those who don't know about the lifestyle, I'll give a bit of a primer.
This particular kink seems to be popular among white middle-aged, middle-class married couples, but it's by no means limited to these folks. There's a number of ways to fall into it, but it seems that it's most basic form is that of an open marriage where it's only the woman who sleeps around. She's the "hot-wife;" a sexually aggressive, promiscuous, dominating and typically attractive woman who actively seeks out and pursues purely sexual relationships with strong, alpha male "bulls." This is done with the full knowledge, acceptance and support of her "****" or "cuckold" husband.
Naturally, there are a lot of trappings that go along with this kind of arrangement which may or may not be present. For a few examples: There seems to be a predilection for black male bulls, as they seem to be perceived as being physically superior to the **** husband. Penis size seems to be a major fixation; part of the ****'s inadequacy is his relatively small or average penis. Sometimes, but not always, the **** is expected, or expects to watch the bull have sex with the hot-wife. The **** may be expected to orally service his hot-wife after the bull has had his way with her.
This is just to name a few.
Now, promiscuity among women is nothing new to the human species. If our literary history is any indication, there used to be a lot of concern about female promiscuity. In Shakespeare, and many other writings, it would seem that a cuckold is an object of ridicule and derision by social custom. Such a male is perceived as weak and unmanly of course.
What seems to be different about the modern incarnation of the cuckold lifestyle is that husbands are actively embracing this activity. Having lurked on a few of their forums, it seems that these husbands often encourage their partners to go out and have extra-marital affairs. They seem to WANT to be sexually humiliated by their wives, and the lovers that their wives often bring home. And what makes me think, is that while fetishes and kinks are a relatively normal part of the human sexual spectrum, this is a whole lifestyle that seems to go well beyond kinky sex. That, and it seems to be growing in popularity by leaps and bounds.
The mask seems to have slipped off this lifestyle in recent months. Jack King was, or is, a Manitoba lawyer who asked a former client to have sex with his wife. This story wouldn't have amounted to much these days, but for the fact that the wife in question is, or was, a recently appointed Manitoba judge. I've not followed the story much, so please excuse the lack of details. It's been widely publicized if anyone feels like digging up the dirt.
So, the question I'm pondering now is, isn't this lifestyle an extreme manifestation of the "nice guy" phenomena? It seems that these submissive males can't accept themselves, and have chosen instead to wallow in a kind of self-deprecating depravity.
It also occurs to me that if this is so, and if this is indeed gaining wider and wider popularity, then western culture seems to be in serious trouble. Emasculated males are males who strike me as being incapable of "manning up" and doing the hard things that men have always done. To have such an apparently large population of them is a bit disturbing.
So, I'm putting it out to those who think about marriage as much and as deeply as I do.
What do you folks think about the cuckold lifestyle? Is it essentially just the "nice guy" phenomena taken to its logical extent?
