Another update from my situation:

Well I ran into my STBXW'S cousins Wednesday afternoon and they had some interesting things to say the least.
-my wife had been bad mouthing me to everyone saying I had been cheating on her
-I was apparently according to her claiming to be going to work on some overtime days and night shifts ,but what I was really doing was going stay with some women
-my paychecks were getting smaller according to her and I couldn't explain why
-her POS OM according to the got fired from his job in late December and still isn't working now at late February
-apparently one of her cousins went to the POSOMs dad's house and they got to talking and his dad said his son (POSOM) has asked a few times to come home and live with him because him and my STBXW were fighting, haha

Well because I'm still paying the bills to the home and not giving her extra, she was waiting for her half of our tax refund that she was entitled to. I gave her her half Wednesday afternoon and when she came get it her neck was cover with hickeys. So now with the too bums having a large some of money I'm sure they are living the good life ...at least for a short amount of time because they will burn through that money quick , with both of them not working.

Well let me get this clear, I've never cheated in her honestly and the days I said I was going to work, guess what??...I was actually doing the responsible thing and going to work. My checks were never getting smaller and that would be evident by looking at my final income for the year. Her excuses and blameshifting are pathetic especially when I don't even mess with them and mind my own business.

On a final note, let me go ahead and congratulate my STBXW and her other man on their engagement last night after our 5 months of being seperated and also her being able to afford to by her a ring off of her half of the tax refund that she did absolutely nothing to contribute to. I'm happy that they could take advantage of someone else's hard work and accomplishments. Lmao

Anyway that will never last especially when he had nothing invested in that relationship. He lives there free, doesn't work, gets feed, sex, didn't have to spend a cent for an engagement ring just to shut her up. He can leave at any moment and lose nothing so he is on the gravy train..

Let's let's everyone get a good laugh at them because I'm at the point where I think they are comical.

Rant over.

 

It would be comical if you weren't the collateral damage.

When is the divorce and are you confident you are ging to wipe her out in it or are you forever going to be supporting this POSOM who is a dirtball ?

What are you doing to save your reputation among these people she is lying to about you ?

Just curious

BTW I can't laugh because it is criminal what she has done to you although I do think it's karma that her relationship with this dirtball is horrible and she's getting engaged anyway.

Why didn't you file married but serperate ?

 

Fantasy vs. Reality. It is comical. A tragic comedy. And the scripts have about as much inspiration as an Adam Sandler movie.

Cheaters create their fantasies effortlessly, and they fall into them without a care; but keeping those fantasies from unraveling at the first hint of trouble... now that takes work. Being in a cheater crush is like wearing a pair of extended-duration beer goggles.

Laughing as your STBXW's vision begins to clear and her world begins to crumble is all well and good, but how are things on your end? You frankly still seem a bit fixated on her... though I understand today was a big day for her.

 

Fantasy vs. Reality. It is comical. A tragic comedy. And the scripts have about as much inspiration as an Adam Sandler movie.

Cheaters create their fantasies effortlessly, and they fall into them without a care; but keeping those fantasies from unraveling at the first hint of trouble... now that takes work. Being in a cheater crush is like wearing a pair of extended-duration beer goggles.

Laughing as your STBXW's vision begins to clear and her world begins to crumble is all well and good, but how are things on your end? You frankly still seem a bit fixated on her... though I understand today was a big day for her.

Nah, things are good on my end. I am much happier now without all of her drama and being around her crazy family. I have improved my financial situation a substantial amount. Im not fixated on her, we just live in a smaller sized town so I run into people that knew us as a couple and feel the need to tell me what she is doing even though I try to avoid hearing it. I have everyone of her family and friends blocked on social media that way I don't have to see or hear what she is doing but i cant help the possibility of running into someone and them bringing up what she is saying or doing.

I filed taxes married together because that's what my lawyer suggested. He said we were married so she is entitled to half of it and if we filed joint that we would get more back so it was best for me to just get more back for myself.

 

This is another reminder for good men and women. When it comes to marriage, let the buyer beware..

 

You just dumped a turd. Congratulations.

 

Keep improving yourself and get even closer to your children if that is possible. Use your emotions to motivate you to get yourself even better.

Your WW and the loser OM will implode in time. If you have your children's heart and your are having a good life then your WW will be remembered like a bad dream; something that you thought was real bad but wound up helping you have a better life.

 

I hope you've started dating, working out and taking care of yourself. Good luck. Live long and prosper.

 

Thanks guys for the kind and inspiring words. It was a tough road to get to where I am now over the past 5 months but like they say what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. There are still days where i have low points but those days are getting rarer as time goes on.

I don't speak alot about my two children on here but our relationship has improved drastically over these 5 months. My oldest has always been attached to her mother and it was hard to get her to stay the full weekend with me at the beginning of the seperation but last weekend when I had them she asked to stay longer. As for my little one,she has always been a daddy's girl and would live with me given the choice.

Everytime I have them I try to make it where we do fun things that they will remember. We do things that make them look forward to coming back with me. I give the attention and listen to their needs. My WW claims she is such a good mom because she is with them so much but not much of that time is spent focusing on them without her being distracted by her phone or friends/family.

I am looking forward to growing our relationship and when the time comes for me to date,I will find someone who is great with them.

 

Sounds good, what you're doing. One caveat: you say you do fun things, I just want to make sure you're talking about things that don't cost money, like picnics and parks and beaches and roller skating. Those are the things that will prove to them that they're wanted and loved, not spending money on them. It's ok to be a Disney Dad sometimes, just hopefully not all the time, cos kids see through that.

 

Good point, guess I should have been more specific. Some of the things I have been doing...some of the things we've done, went to the movies, went see a gymnastics meet, every week I've had them I jump on the trampoline with them, bring them to the park, and also get them to cook with me which they enjoy helping do.

 

Good job. You might also look for local high school or college musical productions, basketball games, stuff like that. I remember my dad taking me to a high school basketball game and it was a lot of fun sitting in such an enthusiastic audience. Plus it's cheaper than the professionals.