[aug]

If I was mischievous, I would throw in the fight for custody of the baby as part of the divorce. That would make the divorce more interesting and could get you what you really want -- significant custody of your son.

You can always back out of financial responsibility of the baby by using the DNA test to show you are not the father when the baby is born.

In addition, the OM would not know or believe that you did not have sex with your wife when she conceived. Let him guess, let the seed of doubt of your wife be planted.

 

[aug]

Fight hard for the baby so that the OM would think your wife was "unfaithful" to him. But dont explicitly say you are the father of the baby -- only the DNA test can confirm.

 

[aug]

Let the other man think that your wife is there only out of pity.

 

[Bleeding]

If I was mischievous, I would throw in the fight for custody of the baby as part of the divorce. That would make the divorce more interesting and could get you what you really want -- significant custody of your son.

You can always back out of financial responsibility of the baby by using the DNA test to show you are not the father when the baby is born.

In addition, the OM would not know or believe that you did not have sex with your wife when she conceived. Let him guess, let the seed of doubt of your wife be planted.

I know what your saying and believe me deep down I would like them to suffer as much as I am but I really don't want to spend any more money because of this *****, also as less contact I have with this two POS the better. I'm really done with her, no way in hell I would want this ***** back.

 

[Sindo]

Ugh. Yes, it is technically possible for them to find out their pregnant in a week. And even if they had sex earlier, they have no reason not to stick to that story.

This divorce cannot come quickly enough.

 

[Bleeding]

Fight hard for the baby so that the OM would think your wife was "unfaithful" to him. But dont explicitly say you are the father of the baby -- only the DNA test can confirm.

He knows we haven't had sex in almost a year, wife told him even before the EA start.

 

[Bleeding]

Ugh. Yes, it is technically possible for them to find out their pregnant in a week. And even if they had sex earlier, they have no reason not to stick to that story.

This divorce cannot come quickly enough.

I feel disgusted to think I still married to this woman, can't wait to just sign the papers and make her stop carrying my name.

 

[aug]

If your wife can lie to you, she can lie to the OM. He'll never really know for sure.

I was thinking of using this tactic to get greater custody of your son.

 

[Bleeding]

If your wife can lie to you, she can lie to the OM. He'll never really know for sure.

I was thinking of using this tactic to get greater custody of your son.

I know but I don't see anyway she would buy it, she is very smart plus OM believes everything she says and she believes everything he says as well, also now a days is possible get a DNA test even before the baby is born.

 

[Shaggy]

Fortunately stress makes it hard to conceive, and even harder to carry a baby to term.

Hopefully she will miscarry any bastard child the POSOM manages to put in her.

These two make the me disgusted to be in the same race as them. Wow. Pure vile crap. Can she possibly catch his cancer from him? I know it's not possible, but it would be nice.

 

[Shaggy]

Since you are still married to her, you could claim that you intend to claim custody of any off spring and to take if from her.

regardless of the DNA.

 

[Bleeding]

Fortunately stress makes it hard to conceive, and even harder to carry a baby to term.

Hopefully she will miscarry any bastard child the POSOM manages to put in her.

These two make the me disgusted to be in the same race as them. Wow. Pure vile crap. Can she possibly catch his cancer from him? I know it's not possible, but it would be nice.

I'm disgusted I been married to this woman, if any good comes out of this is the fact that there's no ****ing chance I would ever in any circumstances take her back, never ever!!!!

 

[Bleeding]

Since you are still married to her, you could claim that you intend to claim custody of any off spring and to take if from her.

regardless of the DNA.

Maybe would be possible but at this point the less contact I have with her the better, I just wish I could forget I even met her, plus would cost me a lot financial, I rather use the money to provide a good life to my son, it would also cause me an amount of stress that at this point I can't deal with, I just want get the divorce papers sign as fast as possible, sell the house and everything else and start building a new life for myself, the good thing is that after this she is dead in my heart, dead.

 

[Shaggy]

The problem is that one day after POSOM is nice and dead (hopefully soon and painfully), and she's raising his bastard orphan child - she is gonna come sniffing back at you trying to get you to take her back in. She is so deluded she will think you will want her back.

 

[Shaggy]

I think just after Sham's evil ex, your wife holds the spot as the most awful wife on TAM.

 

[Bleeding]

The problem is that one day after POSOM is nice and dead (hopefully soon and painfully), and she's raising his bastard orphan child - she is gonna come sniffing back at you trying to get you to take her back in. She is so deluded she will think you will want her back.

You probably right and as crazy as it is until last week I would probably give her another chance, under certain conditions but would probably give her a second chance, not after this. If it happens she is in for a surprise. After this there's no way I will ever but ever give her another chance, I'm done with this woman, there's so much one can take, for reasons I don't understand I still love her but I deserve someone who will never put me through this again and someone who will respect our marriage and our vows, she was never this person.

 

[aug]

Right now your emotions are raw and strong.

To get the best deal out of your divorce, you need to be cold and calculating. It's very hard to change an agreement once it's in place.

Dont let your emotions control the ruthlessness you need to get an extremely favorable agreement. Do it for your son's sake?

 

[Bleeding]

Right now your emotions are raw and strong.

To get the best deal out of your divorce, you need to be cold and calculating. It's very hard to change an agreement once it's in place.

Dont let your emotions control the ruthlessness you need to get an extremely favorable agreement. Do it for your son's sake?

I know what your saying but what was filled was the best deal for me at this point, I have half of the custody and have free access to my son anytime I want, I'm able to keep an eye on him and what is going on in his life, go for a custody war will not accomplish anything right now, if nothing else I will be seen as trying to seek revenge by the courts with no other evidence other than she is a ***** what sadly is not enough and I may harm a future case for custody when I will indeed have evidence, plus my son is very attached to my stbxw, I also don't want to put him through any sort of court hearings or anything similar. I may be wrong but like many of you pointed out my stbxw's future doesn't look good, I will save my financial resources to that time plus with the free access I have now I can document anything that may happen to if necessary use as evidence when the time comes, the divorced agreement that was filled is the best I could get right now.

 

[morituri]

Bleeding,

You may not feel up to it but I would suggest that you start doing things that will help lift your spirits. Eat healthy food and drink plenty of water, exercise or engage in sports, change your look and buy brand new clothes, take or restart a hobby, go out with friends (abstain from alcohol though). Also consider going out on dates - coffee shop dates preferably - not with the intention of having any romantic relationships with women - you are no way near ready for that - but as a way of making platonic friendships with women. Many women are in the same position you are and do not want to get themselves involved in romantic relationship with another man, but many of them certainly are open to developing platonic friendships with men such as you. All these things can help you tremendously in your personal recovery and make you look forward to a better future.

 

[Tall Average Guy]

I know what your saying but what was filled was the best deal for me at this point, I have half of the custody and have free access to my son anytime I want, I'm able to keep an eye on him and what is going on in his life, go for a custody war will not accomplish anything right now, if nothing else I will be seen as trying to seek revenge by the courts with no other evidence other than she is a ***** what sadly is not enough and I may harm a future case for custody when I will indeed have evidence, plus my son is very attached to my stbxw, I also don't want to put him through any sort of court hearings or anything similar. I may be wrong but like many of you pointed out my stbxw's future doesn't look good, I will save my financial resources to that time plus with the free access I have now I can document anything that may happen to if necessary use as evidence when the time comes, the divorced agreement that was filled is the best I could get right now.

Based on my understanding of the time line, the best deal that you used when filing has changed considerably with the pregnancy. Under the law, you may be on the hook for costs unless you take affirmative steps to avoid it. This includes pre-natal care and the hospital fees for the delivery, not to mention child support. You need to get this settled immediately, including making sure that these costs are taken from her side of the settlement and that you are not left holding the bag. If she is not willing to do that, than you may need to play hardball. After all, if she expects you to pay for the child's upbringing, then you clearly deserve visitation rights.