My wife and I have been married for 6 years.She never has told me she has a problem with my uncircumcised penis.Yesterday she asked,"Do you ever think about getting circumcised"?And the discussion went on.It seems she doesn't like my uncircumcised penis.I've done a lot of reading online about this today.A study actually said that circumcision removes 20,000 nerve endings from the penis.And it is widely reported that uncircumcised men have more sensitivity.Im upset and confused.I do not want to get circumcised.My wife actually claimed to have told me this before.Her brother got circumcised years ago,and she claims to have talked to me about getting circumcised when she told me about her brother.That had to have been a one sentence or something of that nature and not a full conversation because I would have remembered it.So do any men have experiences with their wives wanting them to get circumcised?Any women prefer an uncircumcised penis?Why?Have you ever told a man you wanted him to get circumcised?
Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous
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Have you asked her why?
Do you wash underneath the skin and rid of all the '****-cheese' and sh-t lol
Cause that's normally when MY wife suggests circumsicion (or more of a "clean it up or get circumsized! Don't gross me out again" kinda thing)
Do you wash underneath the skin and rid of all the '****-cheese' and sh-t lol
Cause that's normally when MY wife suggests circumsicion (or more of a "clean it up or get circumsized! Don't gross me out again" kinda thing)
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NO!!!! NO! NO! NO!
Female circumcision is considered cruel/brutal and is likewise illegal in this country. WHY IN THE HELL is male circumcision legal?!?!?! Sorry, my wife and I are intactivists and prefer to say intact, rather than uncircumcised. Saying uncircumcised sounds like being circumcised is the default state and one choses to lose their circumcision - to be uncircumcised. Though I was circumcised 3 days after my birth, my wife and I have done much research on this, and have decided it's wrong and chose not to circumcise our son. My mom had a problem with it, but I put her in her place on this issue. Her rationale was that a son should look like his father. I argue that losing one's little toe at birth is less detrimental to one's life than circumcision.
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Modifying a body part is fine (as long as its done safely, by a licensed professional, and in a sterile environment), if that's what YOU want, but NO ONE should be forcing or even trying to convince you to change your body. This is your body, and having a circumcision could be really damaging to your sex life. I have even heard it argued, that more damage is likely when an adult gets a circumcision vice an infant (ie. lower sensitivity levels in the adult).
By the way, I am student at an American medical school, and my stance on circumcision directly contradicts the most recent publication from the American Academy of Pediatrics regarding the matter (they actually SUPPORT the operation
:scratchhead. Just adding this info so you know that not all doctors agree on the matter (I know, I'm not a doctor, yet, but I am in my 3rd year, so I know my stuff pretty well).
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Well OP needs to check ALL the angles lol
There MUST be a reason she wants him cut
You wouldn't be with someone over a piece of foreskin that can be pulled back?
Christ you're shallow.
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My husband is uncut and I have never had an issue with it. It's just more to play with.
I would have to say there is a whole lot more to this than just her not liking the "look" of an uncircumcised penis. This is her escape goat to the real problem.
I would have to say there is a whole lot more to this than just her not liking the "look" of an uncircumcised penis. This is her escape goat to the real problem.
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Sigh... let's not turn this into a debate over whether it is right to get your child circumcised or not, mmmk? Jack asked if ladies have ever asked their SO to get circumcised. I mentioned that his wife MAY be bringing this up because of her PREVIOUS low self-esteem, and she may have been afraid before because she was afraid she would be alone. But it could also be related to ALL the other issues they have going on. I think THEY should discuss WHY she asked this, and if he doesn't want to do it, then he shouldn't do it. Just as she has the right to refuse certain requests he may make/has made.
I never asked my husband to get circumcised. His was done 8 days after he was born. Since I am not Jewish, our boys were done when they were one day old. I'm not debating whether we should or should not have done it. It's done. And we would choose to do it again, although we would probably have searched for a mohel to do it, even though I am not Jewish. But I digress...
My husband's circumcised penis has not inhibited our sex life. No problems with sensation, no problems when having sex, period.
Anyway, like I said, this isn't the thread to debate infant circumcision. There's one in the debate section already.
I never asked my husband to get circumcised. His was done 8 days after he was born. Since I am not Jewish, our boys were done when they were one day old. I'm not debating whether we should or should not have done it. It's done. And we would choose to do it again, although we would probably have searched for a mohel to do it, even though I am not Jewish. But I digress...
My husband's circumcised penis has not inhibited our sex life. No problems with sensation, no problems when having sex, period.
Anyway, like I said, this isn't the thread to debate infant circumcision. There's one in the debate section already.
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Well, I guess it's a good thing I married a man who was circumcised when he was a baby, huh? Everyone has their own preferences. I don't like the look of an uncircumcised penis. So what? What difference does MY preference make to YOU? I am happy with my husband's penis. Again, what does it matter TO YOU?
ETA: I did like how you focused on the part where I said I would never be with an uncircumcised man, but not the part where I said I like MY HUSBAND'S penis... which happens to be circumcised.... so liking my husband's penis makes me shallow. Awesome! :smthumbup:
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Meh, I still vote the 'its the cheese'
Meh, I still vote the 'its the cheese'
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You are correct. I apologize to the OP for hijacking the thread. I wasn't aware there was a debate thread. I'll take my rantings and ravings over there.
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GMAFB Jack. Considering the BS you have pulled on your wife in the last few months? MY preference of circumcised vs uncircumcised should not even concern you. I stated my personal preference and the fact that I am HAPPY with my HUSBAND'S penis. So, it makes me shallow because I LIKE how MY HUSBAND'S penis looks... GMAFB!
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He should be focusing on the cheese.
Hehe ok I'll stop... couldn't resist
Hehe ok I'll stop... couldn't resist
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I'd say you are probably correct. I think there is a LOT more than just that she doesn't like how it looks...as I pointed out in the first post I made in the thread. It is likely related to all the nonsense Jack threw her way the last few months and she was saying it to shock him. Either way, they need to figure out WHY she said it in the first place, when she at least appeared to be ok with it in the beginning.My husband is uncut and I have never had an issue with it. It's just more to play with.
I would have to say there is a whole lot more to this than just her not liking the "look" of an uncircumcised penis. This is her escape goat to the real problem.
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I am a doctor also...dont do it unless you are having a medical problem with the foreskin.
I had it done to me as a baby (my dad did not and my brother did not)....my mother claims she cried about it and they pressured her...hum..
Personally I hate it......I wish I was intact.
I have read posts by several women who state that the PIV sex is way way better. It helps with lube. It surely makes it more sensitive...
Its so funny too that in a culture obsessed with penis size....we would cut 1/3 (sometimes more) of the total skin surface area off this personal organ.
Its a horrible thing to do to a baby...it should be 100% illegal....it can always be done where the guy is 18 and can decide on his own....Muslims do it as teens...the pain is not that bad....
All the "medical" reasons for doing it to babies are really BS....there are excellent documentaries on this....
I would never ever allow my son to be circumcised...if I ever have one...no more than I would have allowed someone to take a scalpel to my daughters private parts.
No way.
Step back..it makes no sense to cut off this part of a man's body.....its absolutely religious tradition and that is it. Everything else are rationalizations.
There are exceptions for medical reasons...my 44 year old brother has medical problems that make it hard for him to take care of his hygiene...he got a serve urinary tract infection....and circ is a good option to prevent in future....
That is the exception..
Whatever your beliefs...natural selection or a creator....in either case a "higher power" put that skin there.....it should be left alone unless it actually causes a problem.
Everyone know about the case of the boy who had the entire penis zapped off during one....Dr John Money at Hopkins tried to have him raised as a girl....after having him castrated also.....
It never worked....it was a horror story and it ruined the mans life.
there are many other complication cases...
Its not worth even ONE case of a normal lovely baby boy losing his penis for life or partial functionality for life.
I had it done to me as a baby (my dad did not and my brother did not)....my mother claims she cried about it and they pressured her...hum..
Personally I hate it......I wish I was intact.
I have read posts by several women who state that the PIV sex is way way better. It helps with lube. It surely makes it more sensitive...
Its so funny too that in a culture obsessed with penis size....we would cut 1/3 (sometimes more) of the total skin surface area off this personal organ.
Its a horrible thing to do to a baby...it should be 100% illegal....it can always be done where the guy is 18 and can decide on his own....Muslims do it as teens...the pain is not that bad....
All the "medical" reasons for doing it to babies are really BS....there are excellent documentaries on this....
I would never ever allow my son to be circumcised...if I ever have one...no more than I would have allowed someone to take a scalpel to my daughters private parts.
No way.
Step back..it makes no sense to cut off this part of a man's body.....its absolutely religious tradition and that is it. Everything else are rationalizations.
There are exceptions for medical reasons...my 44 year old brother has medical problems that make it hard for him to take care of his hygiene...he got a serve urinary tract infection....and circ is a good option to prevent in future....
That is the exception..
Whatever your beliefs...natural selection or a creator....in either case a "higher power" put that skin there.....it should be left alone unless it actually causes a problem.
Everyone know about the case of the boy who had the entire penis zapped off during one....Dr John Money at Hopkins tried to have him raised as a girl....after having him castrated also.....
It never worked....it was a horror story and it ruined the mans life.
there are many other complication cases...
Its not worth even ONE case of a normal lovely baby boy losing his penis for life or partial functionality for life.
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Sharp objects and penises shouldn't be in the same sentence together
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Also...I NEVER understand WOMEN who complain about foreskin...
Considering all the flaps and folds that they have in their own anatomy.
I think its all beautiful and interesting. All variations. Should we be cutting labia's to a specific size...for cosmetic reasons?
I just cant understand where any women has a point of any kind.
This is just cultural and cosmetic....and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Considering all the flaps and folds that they have in their own anatomy.
I think its all beautiful and interesting. All variations. Should we be cutting labia's to a specific size...for cosmetic reasons?
I just cant understand where any women has a point of any kind.
This is just cultural and cosmetic....and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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God sure hates his foreskins though, maybe that's an influence no?
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I've dated one guy who was uncirced. He was DISGUSTING. I can't tell you how many UTI's I got from his nasty habits of not cleaning. Not saying all uncirced guys are like that, but he turned me off. Not to mention I too like the look of a circed penis hands down. Would you date a woman who was 300lbs overweight? No? Are you shallow? It's just something that I care about, something that would make me definitely think twice before continuing in a relationship with a person due to my past experiences. Personal preference, and nothing to get bent out of shape over. Like Maricha said, it doesn't effect you.
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Again, this thread is not about INFANT circumcision. It is about JACK'S WIFE requesting that HE get it done. So, the part of your post that is relevant to THIS thread is that he should not get it done unless it is medically necessary. The rest is better served in the thread in the debate section.
ETA: I'll even make it easy on people: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/politics-religion/50830-male-insight-male-circumcision.html
There's the debate thread.
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