She got what she wanted and now she's reaping its harvest.

 

I'm happy for you, the karma bus never stops.

Only if a WS can realize this before stepping outside of the marriage.....

 

You may be on to something.

I left my CS since he refused to leave, so for the time being he resides in the marital home and I have a nice place to rent while things get worked out on the legal end. I have an excellent relationship with our son, and also with my step-son (his from a prior marriage).

CS is miserable, although he is still trying to date and meet OW on sites, such as craiglists and other dating sites (I have seen the ads, and printed them for my lawyer).

On Mother's Day, HE wanted to take me out to dinner. I don't know why. He sent me an email; no talk about love, missing me, etc., just what HE wanted. He recently received the papers from the lawyer in regards to alimony (28 year marriage here), so I suspect he wanted to bully me into giving him information, which I will not do at this time.

But yes, you have a valid and interesting point. I'm doing fine without him. He appears to be needy and wanting validation (?) or something. He continues to look for other women so I can only assume he hasn't been very successful in his search - and he lost his wife.

Yes, I do feel that I have the power now and that he no longer can control my life. I'll be interested to read what others have experienced.

 

A majority of infidelity is all fantasy, for some rare.....few waywards the fog clears and they realize the fantasy and they get back into the M. Often the fantasy is not realized until the damage is unrepairable, and the betrayed moves on.

So in short when the power is generated by fantasy then it is false power. What sucks is at the time when the infelity comes to light both the BS LS don't realize it and hence the soft approach is taken by the betrayed and the wayward believes the grass is greener.

Thats why I'm a firm believer in tough approuches, pushing the wayward further away so that there are true and real consequences for the waywards fantasy.

Granted all of this is a case by case basis, but for the must part pushing the wayward away/or into the arms of the AP often bring to light that the AP is not all that great.

 

I love how you put that. And all responses here. "You reap what you sow!" Happy for this guy it work out so well. No... the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence! I wish more would realize just what they have and by cheating, what they stand to loose... everything that can make them happy. Marriage is a commitment, and is sometimes hard work, but in the end... it pays! Hence, 'reap what you sow!' Smiles!!!

 

Reality hit home.
It is just what it is.