All sober-minded people who know real life agree that the reason for infidelity is ALWAYS only the morality of the cheater and their character traits.
Cheaters belong to a huge group of people without a moral core, selfish and unreliable by nature. Such people can POTENTIALLY betray not only their relationship partners, but also colleagues, their team members, firms, the state - in general, everyone. They can become thieves, robbers, swindlers, murderers, rapists, etc. However, not everyone realizes this vicious potential, because ACTION requires not only motivation, but also favorable circumstances. So, "opportunity makes the thief".
I would paraphrase this proverb like this: "opportunity makes the cheater."
Experience shows that the PRETEXT (not the reason!) for Infidelity is caused not only by proximity between a potential cheater and a potential AP at work, in the neighborhood, with exes or relatives (their own and partner's), not only by passion on popular erotic and dating sites. A huge number of affairs begin in the most popular places where people of Western (particularly American) civilization spend their leisure time WITHOUT THEIR COMMITTED PARTNERS.
I will name these places in order according to my estimate of the relative number of affairs beginning/occurring in them.
1. Bars, night clubs.
2.Gym, tennis, other sports activities.
3.Girls/boys trips.
4.Visits to cinemas, theaters, parks, natural attractions, concerts, exhibitions, etc.
5.Bachelor/bachelorette parties.
5.Online or table games.
etc.
Several questions immediately arise about each of these activities.
1) Why, in God's name, do people allow their SOs to go without them to "relax" in bars or nightclubs, when it is known that these facilities are essentially dating/meeting places for sex in various forms??
2) Why the hell do people allow their SOs to go to a mixed-sex gym without them, when it is known that it is a place where people (willingly or unwittingly) are openly demonstrating their secondary sexual characteristics, semi-naked tight bodies to members of the opposite sex, when it is known that such a gym is a disguised brothel??? Why do people allow that their SOs personal trainers are representatives of the opposite sex?? Why aren't there gym for men and women separately or are there very few of them???
3) Why are people calm about girls/boys trips when it is known that the company of single boys/girls join the company of single girls/boys in places of entertainment in almost 100% of cases??
4) Why are people so tolerant of spending their SOs time with their "friends" of the opposite sex ONE-ON-ONE on "serious" entertainment related to art, nature, etc.? Why don't they understand that such a "friendship" with common interests/hobbies will certainly end in at least an emotional affair??
5) Why don't people demand strict boundaries from their SOs at bachelor/bachelorette parties and don't take partners control measures when it is known how often the party ends with drugs and strippers, when it is known that after the end of the "official" part, in many cases, exes, acquaintances or strangers of the opposite sex join the companies??
6) Why don't people object to their partners' excessive fascination with online and board games when they begin to have a clear increased interest in a particular person of the opposite sex??
And so on, and so force.
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I understand that affairs may not occur during the aforementioned activities, but the exceptions only confirm the rule. We cannot deny the enormous risks of such "personal freedom" for people in a committed relationship.
Why don't we adhere to the simplest rule: if you are in an official monogamous relationship, then you should relax /have fun only in activities with your partner's participation, and not with other "chosen" representative of the opposite sex?
Freedom is not anarchy, but responsibility!
Rights entail responsibilities!
If you don't like responsibility or boundaries in a relationship, then get out of the relationship! Marriage, any official relationship is not a prison, not an army, not a strict regime mental hospital that cannot be left voluntarily and at any moment.
Cheaters belong to a huge group of people without a moral core, selfish and unreliable by nature. Such people can POTENTIALLY betray not only their relationship partners, but also colleagues, their team members, firms, the state - in general, everyone. They can become thieves, robbers, swindlers, murderers, rapists, etc. However, not everyone realizes this vicious potential, because ACTION requires not only motivation, but also favorable circumstances. So, "opportunity makes the thief".
I would paraphrase this proverb like this: "opportunity makes the cheater."
Experience shows that the PRETEXT (not the reason!) for Infidelity is caused not only by proximity between a potential cheater and a potential AP at work, in the neighborhood, with exes or relatives (their own and partner's), not only by passion on popular erotic and dating sites. A huge number of affairs begin in the most popular places where people of Western (particularly American) civilization spend their leisure time WITHOUT THEIR COMMITTED PARTNERS.
I will name these places in order according to my estimate of the relative number of affairs beginning/occurring in them.
1. Bars, night clubs.
2.Gym, tennis, other sports activities.
3.Girls/boys trips.
4.Visits to cinemas, theaters, parks, natural attractions, concerts, exhibitions, etc.
5.Bachelor/bachelorette parties.
5.Online or table games.
etc.
Several questions immediately arise about each of these activities.
1) Why, in God's name, do people allow their SOs to go without them to "relax" in bars or nightclubs, when it is known that these facilities are essentially dating/meeting places for sex in various forms??
2) Why the hell do people allow their SOs to go to a mixed-sex gym without them, when it is known that it is a place where people (willingly or unwittingly) are openly demonstrating their secondary sexual characteristics, semi-naked tight bodies to members of the opposite sex, when it is known that such a gym is a disguised brothel??? Why do people allow that their SOs personal trainers are representatives of the opposite sex?? Why aren't there gym for men and women separately or are there very few of them???
3) Why are people calm about girls/boys trips when it is known that the company of single boys/girls join the company of single girls/boys in places of entertainment in almost 100% of cases??
4) Why are people so tolerant of spending their SOs time with their "friends" of the opposite sex ONE-ON-ONE on "serious" entertainment related to art, nature, etc.? Why don't they understand that such a "friendship" with common interests/hobbies will certainly end in at least an emotional affair??
5) Why don't people demand strict boundaries from their SOs at bachelor/bachelorette parties and don't take partners control measures when it is known how often the party ends with drugs and strippers, when it is known that after the end of the "official" part, in many cases, exes, acquaintances or strangers of the opposite sex join the companies??
6) Why don't people object to their partners' excessive fascination with online and board games when they begin to have a clear increased interest in a particular person of the opposite sex??
And so on, and so force.
...................................................
I understand that affairs may not occur during the aforementioned activities, but the exceptions only confirm the rule. We cannot deny the enormous risks of such "personal freedom" for people in a committed relationship.
Why don't we adhere to the simplest rule: if you are in an official monogamous relationship, then you should relax /have fun only in activities with your partner's participation, and not with other "chosen" representative of the opposite sex?
Freedom is not anarchy, but responsibility!
Rights entail responsibilities!
If you don't like responsibility or boundaries in a relationship, then get out of the relationship! Marriage, any official relationship is not a prison, not an army, not a strict regime mental hospital that cannot be left voluntarily and at any moment.