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you are receiving good advice.

I do hope you have a VAR on you at all times. You do not want her to accuse you of abuse.

(and get you kicked out of the house)

She is deep in love and not with you.

Have her write the timeline, get info from the POSOM's wife and file for divorce.

I do not think she will wake up out of love. Have her sign an agreement that You get custody of your child and she will pay you alimony and child support because she cheated.

So she is the supervisor. So he can sue her for sexual harassment. Really stupid to fish off the work dock.

Tell her to go live with him, she loves him and not you.

How would she feel if you had lied to her for so long and she is still lying to you. How many times did they have sex? Get that in her written timeline.

I do hope you have exposed to her family and to your family.

Good luck in your future. I do hope someday you find someone that will not cheat on you.
 
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My wife-
But this is what I can't do. I can't be the after thought you have right before bed every night so I'm still hanging on tomorrow. You take 2 mins of your day to send me 4 lines....13 words. And none of them really say anything. I suppose the "busy afternoon" was your way of providing rationale for the lack of contact. And of course u remind me to miss you, but no truth as to where your head is. And this is the 2nd email I received since 1030am when u left work today. I know it was your sons bday and I know u sent like 4 snaps. I recognize that. But I'm who u spent the morning making love to. And I'm the one who sat in your office and cried most of the morning. And this is what I am to you? 13 words after 7 hours of no contact? I don't know that you have room for me in your life honestly. I've made room for you in mine, but where do I fit in?
I'm not mad at you and I can even appreciate you being busy with your family. But where does that leave me? What am I to you, xxxx?
Because if im the 1030 afterthought after time spent with the people you really care about, I'm not sure I can hold on. I know it's not fair to ask for more. I recognize it. But I do think I deserve better. Figure out your feelings, baby, because my heart can't take much more.
Good night. I love you.
The worst part about that email is she said that she spent the morning making love to him, but when I ask her about that she said it was a typo and they have never had any sexual relations.
I believe you are wrong, the worst part is not the "making love" (Actualy f'in like bunnies everywhere from the work place to parking lot to close cheap motels she likely pays for).
The worse is actualy the rest of her text, the waiting "more than 13 words", the hours crying at his office, the "what I am for you", the fact her family is not anywhere in the email while his (the real obstacle in her mind) get written several timeshe ), it's the anticipation... she's madly in luuurv and in lust with this guy.

BTW, better protect yourself becasue BW can also inform HR and get your wife fired and even sued. If OM manage to get a last shot in his marriage this BW might demand from him to sue your wife for sexual harrasment. WW, and you by proxi, have too much to loose here.
 
BTW, better protect yourself becasue BW can also inform HR and get your wife fired and even sued. If OM manage to get a last shot in his marriage this BW might demand from him to sue your wife for sexual harrasment. WW, and you by proxi, have too much to loose here.
Yup, if his wife came on TAM that is exactly what we would advise her to do...
 
The destructiveness of her choice is almost mind boggling...

1. Lost emotions for you
2. Gained emotions for an unknown
3. YOUR KIDS LIVES
4. Risk of being sued
5. Exposure to STD's if this was unprotected
6. Financial risk from Divorce/ Health
7. Potential loss of job
8. Collateral damage to families and friends that ALWAYS follows
9. Broken covenant
10. The pain that is coming like a tsumami to many
 
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Your marriage can survive infidelity. Many do. But you will have to do a lot of things 'right' to enable that. It will include, first, a list of things:
She must write him a No Contact letter that she gives YOU so YOU can approve it and then send yourself.
She must write you out a timeline of every single interaction they have had that involved other than work.
She must hand over all her electronics - without warning her ahead of time - so you can take them to an IT guy and get all the proof downloaded and printed for your safekeeping, should you need it. You can then give them back to her.
She must find and set up MC appointments and KEEP THEM, until you're satisfied.
She must start looking for another job. If she continues to work with him, IT WILL NOT STOP. Either he goes or she goes.
She must go with you to tell her parents or siblings (whoever she's close to) what she did and ask their forgiveness.
She must read His Needs Her Needs with you and do the homework and start making changes in how she spends her time, including spending 15 hours a week with you away from child/chore/work.

If she won't do these things, you have no marriage to save.
 
I wonder how many men your wife will have by the time your kid starts driving.

When my kids were your kids age my old lady just started phucking around. when they started driving she was at 18 guys, by the time they went to college she was on her 20th affair.

My point is do you really think your old lady is going to affair proof her marriage if #1 you guys swept this under the rug and #2 she doesn't face what she has become?

Dude you guys have a lot of time left together...trust me don't waste it by not having the balls to show her the consequences for this kind of crap, or you will end up like me ...dealing with a serial cheater that should have been dealt with 18 years ago!
 
Agreed. She has to see a VERY strong front from you right now - no exceptions: "Wife, I'm willing to look at my actions in our marriage, but this affair is on YOU, so it will have to be YOU working to repair the damage. If you're not willing, then I'm not willing to stay. Let me know your decision."
 
Agreed. She has to see a VERY strong front from you right now - no exceptions: "Wife, I'm willing to look at my actions in our marriage, but this affair is on YOU, so it will have to be YOU working to repair the damage. If you're not willing, then I'm not willing to stay. Let me know your decision."
WELL SAID Turnera:smthumbup:


Yes, think FAST AND FURIOUS... either drive it hard or don't drive at all...
 
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I find it interesting how the OM replies to this heart felt letter from your wife......

The guys is like "ya what ever, good night and phuck you tomarrow"


Your chick is so being used by this POS. She is so deep in the fog, and doesn't have a clue.

I mean your old lady doesn't even know how to be the other women!!!!!

What did she really expect from the OM? Have you asked her?
 
This is a typo:

Hi, my nme is PBF. These are not:
I know it was your sons bday and I know u sent like 4 snaps. I recognize that. But I'm who u spent the morning making love to. And I'm the one who sat in your office and cried most of the morning. And this is what I am to you? 13 words after 7 hours of no contact?
The worst part about that email is she said that she spent the morning making love to him, but when I ask her about that she said it was a typo and they have never had any sexual relations.
Ask her what that was supposed to say.

In context she’s complaining about not getting enough attention from the OM after what she had done for him.

What she had done for him?

She stated that she sat in his office crying most of the morning. Why did she do that? Did they have a special project?

OM is who she “spent the morning making love to.” Again, what was it supposed to say? "Making coffee for" instead of "making love to?"
 
Ask her what that was supposed to say.

In context she’s complaining about not getting enough attention from the OM after what she had done for him.

What she had done for him?

She stated that she sat in his office crying most of the morning. Why did she do that? Did they have a special project?

OM is who she “spent the morning making love to.” Again, what was it supposed to say? "Making coffee for" instead of "making love to?"
get ready for gaslighting..
 
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Sorry I thought he was the boss.
Yes his wife could potentially sue the company and her being his superior, would be fired.
Your wife better wake up to that fact and in my opinion, you get a lawyer asap.
Protect you and your kid.
 
OM is who she “spent the morning making love to.” Again, what was it supposed to say? "Making coffee for" instead of "making love to?"
"We spent the last 8 months making love" would have been closer to the truth. So maybe that was the typo.
 
1. Get tested for STD's
2. I am not a fan of polygraphs, I think they are a waste of money and time. Some will say you might get a parking lot confession. If you go this route, then do not let her know you are taking her.
3. 180 - hard
4. Lawyer up. Learn your options and don't inform your wife that you are doing this.
5. Typically I would say put the dude on Cheaterville, right now I would hold off on exposure till you figure out whether you want to divorce her or not. The dude's wife already knows. If you divorce you want your wife to be employed.
6. Don't believe a word out of her mouth. She is lying. She had sex with this guy several times. There was no typo.
7. Don't say much to her.
8. Get your finances in order.
 
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