I need advice.
So my wife and I have been married since 2009. We have had a decent relationship the whole time. I have suspected my wife has been having an emotional affair with someone she works with for the last 8 months, but I could never prove it. They texted every day and on weekends. I would say on average 100-150 texts a day. They emailed each other, snap chatted each other, and talked on the phone daily. I have been suspicious for a while now and my wife and I have argued over this a lot. She insisted they are just friends.
Then the guys wife emailed me this the other day. It is a conversation she found between my wife and the man. This was sent at 1030-11pm at night while I was going to bed, and my wife was down stairs emailing this man from her phone.
My wife-
guess what's really sad is the 13 words even made me smile...
My wife-
But this is what I can't do. I can't be the after thought you have right before bed every night so I'm still hanging on tomorrow. You take 2 mins of your day to send me 4 lines....13 words. And none of them really say anything. I suppose the "busy afternoon" was your way of providing rationale for the lack of contact. And of course u remind me to miss you, but no truth as to where your head is. And this is the 2nd email I received since 1030am when u left work today. I know it was your sons bday and I know u sent like 4 snaps. I recognize that. But I'm who u spent the morning making love to. And I'm the one who sat in your office and cried most of the morning. And this is what I am to you? 13 words after 7 hours of no contact? I don't know that you have room for me in your life honestly. I've made room for you in mine, but where do I fit in?
I'm not mad at you and I can even appreciate you being busy with your family. But where does that leave me? What am I to you, xxxx?
Because if im the 1030 afterthought after time spent with the people you really care about, I'm not sure I can hold on. I know it's not fair to ask for more. I recognize it. But I do think I deserve better. Figure out your feelings, baby, because my heart can't take much more.
Good night. I love you.
Him-
Birthday biy was happy. Busy afternoon.
Good night babe.
Sleep good.
Miss me
The worst part about that email is she said that she spent the morning making love to him, but when I ask her about that she said it was a typo and they have never had any sexual relations. She has admitted to me that it was a deep emotional connection and she has been having an emotional affair. I told her to stop lying to me and if they did have sex then just tell the truth, but she continues to deny it. Maybe she is telling the truth, but its hard for me to see that in the email and believe her. So I am at a loss now as to what to do. She is sad, and upset over all of this. From what I know his wife is kicking him out of the house. My wife and this man are no longer working together or at the same office. She is really acting upset over this and continues to say she is sorry and wants to work things out with me. Any ideas as to what I should do? I want to believe her but at this point it is hard for me to believe anything she says. She has lied to me for months and when I asked about what is going on in the past she told me they are friends, and that I am controlling and jealous. She has made me feel like a failure and a horrible person, when all along what I suspected was true and she was the one in the wrong. She is trying to do things that she thinks may make me feel better, like unlocking her phone and letting me see if it i want. I told her I have no use to look at your phone, if something came in you would delete it before I ever knew. She has insisted that all contact has stopped between her and this guy. At the moment I kind of believe that. My biggest fear is once this dies down a little bit they will continue to contact each other and start this all over again.
So my wife and I have been married since 2009. We have had a decent relationship the whole time. I have suspected my wife has been having an emotional affair with someone she works with for the last 8 months, but I could never prove it. They texted every day and on weekends. I would say on average 100-150 texts a day. They emailed each other, snap chatted each other, and talked on the phone daily. I have been suspicious for a while now and my wife and I have argued over this a lot. She insisted they are just friends.
Then the guys wife emailed me this the other day. It is a conversation she found between my wife and the man. This was sent at 1030-11pm at night while I was going to bed, and my wife was down stairs emailing this man from her phone.
My wife-
guess what's really sad is the 13 words even made me smile...
My wife-
But this is what I can't do. I can't be the after thought you have right before bed every night so I'm still hanging on tomorrow. You take 2 mins of your day to send me 4 lines....13 words. And none of them really say anything. I suppose the "busy afternoon" was your way of providing rationale for the lack of contact. And of course u remind me to miss you, but no truth as to where your head is. And this is the 2nd email I received since 1030am when u left work today. I know it was your sons bday and I know u sent like 4 snaps. I recognize that. But I'm who u spent the morning making love to. And I'm the one who sat in your office and cried most of the morning. And this is what I am to you? 13 words after 7 hours of no contact? I don't know that you have room for me in your life honestly. I've made room for you in mine, but where do I fit in?
I'm not mad at you and I can even appreciate you being busy with your family. But where does that leave me? What am I to you, xxxx?
Because if im the 1030 afterthought after time spent with the people you really care about, I'm not sure I can hold on. I know it's not fair to ask for more. I recognize it. But I do think I deserve better. Figure out your feelings, baby, because my heart can't take much more.
Good night. I love you.
Him-
Birthday biy was happy. Busy afternoon.
Good night babe.
Sleep good.
Miss me
The worst part about that email is she said that she spent the morning making love to him, but when I ask her about that she said it was a typo and they have never had any sexual relations. She has admitted to me that it was a deep emotional connection and she has been having an emotional affair. I told her to stop lying to me and if they did have sex then just tell the truth, but she continues to deny it. Maybe she is telling the truth, but its hard for me to see that in the email and believe her. So I am at a loss now as to what to do. She is sad, and upset over all of this. From what I know his wife is kicking him out of the house. My wife and this man are no longer working together or at the same office. She is really acting upset over this and continues to say she is sorry and wants to work things out with me. Any ideas as to what I should do? I want to believe her but at this point it is hard for me to believe anything she says. She has lied to me for months and when I asked about what is going on in the past she told me they are friends, and that I am controlling and jealous. She has made me feel like a failure and a horrible person, when all along what I suspected was true and she was the one in the wrong. She is trying to do things that she thinks may make me feel better, like unlocking her phone and letting me see if it i want. I told her I have no use to look at your phone, if something came in you would delete it before I ever knew. She has insisted that all contact has stopped between her and this guy. At the moment I kind of believe that. My biggest fear is once this dies down a little bit they will continue to contact each other and start this all over again.