[Hope1964]

For some it will be, for some it won't. What matters is what your wife thinks.

Why would someone who is happily married even WANT to get a lap dance??

 

[Hope1964]

I'm not planning on telling my wife or anything,this happened about a year ago

Ouch. Your poor wife.

So, what do you think? Did you cheat? If you've been feeling guilty I would say that yes, you do think you cheated.

You'll probably get slaughtered on here for not telling your wife. All I will say is that the longer you keep it a secret, the harder it will be to get it out in the open, and the harder she'll take it. What do you think will happen if you find that, in say 5 years, you realize you need to tell her? 6 years of living a lie is far worse than one year.

 

[Hope1964]

It pisses me right off and makes me very sad at the same time that there are guys like this out there. Guys who think it's OK to get a little action on the side, and as long as their wife doesn't know about it, it won't hurt her. Guys whose wives trust them, and yet who think nothing of what they're doing.

Some kind of marriage that is. You, OP, are a liar and a cheater. You are lying to yourself and to your wife about the fact you cheated on her. You paid another woman and you got your rocks off. Just like if you hired a hooker, or had a happy ending massage.

Yuck.