To me its fairly easy. The “fog” is more about taking on a belief system of “how you want it to be”. This is often vastly different than how it really is. Basically you devalue or throw out any information or facts that might contradict how you want it to appear. It’s a big old sales job in your head where you are reasoning yourself into an opinion or belief.
“Love” just is.... it is an emotion like “hate”. You can’t ‘reason’ it.