We have zero sex. After 18 years of marriage and 20 years together, we have 2 beautiful teen girls. But we don’t have sex. There is always an excuse. The girls, not interested, video game will take 2 hours, he says I’m fat, it’s too cold, not a good time, it’s not our anniversary. I get the cold shoulder every day. He looks at me in disgust. He loves his daughters and very sweet with them. I’m just washed up at age 49 and menopausal. We have sex on our anniversary. That’s it. This is not the relationship that I wanted. My ex was horrible but at least we had sex. My kids don’t want to hear anything about this. My mom hates my gay daughter. It feels bad. I feel terrible. And we sleep in the same bed. We go to sleep at different times. I don’t know if the cat is the problem. I wish he would talk. He says nothing. We go to hotel on our anniversary and have obligatory sex.