Boy! You're going to get a very wide range of repsonses to that question! Some people went through very nasty and drawn out divorces while others breezed through it quickly and amicably. So their advice will be accordingly.If you had the opportunity to tell all of us TAMers that are getting ready to file, just one piece of advice regarding divorcing, what would it be?
This is good advice - my ex asked me to lend him money to pay a lawyer to notarise something. If I hadn't it would have held up the transfer of the house to me and also the divorce. I did it (although took it off the final payment I made to him). He got more money than he was entitled to, but it would have gone to a lawyer anyway and now I know that whatever f*ck up he makes of his life I will know he did very well out of me and can have a clear conscienceAnd know which battles are worth fighting and which are just best to give in so you can get it done. My stbx just asked me yesterday if I was going to pay for her lawyer because "she can't" (won't get a job). My first reaction was of course, hell no. But then I realized I probably will just pay it. It's worth it to me to move things forward instead of saying no and waiting weeks for her to borrow the money from her parents or get a judge to order me to pay it.
:iagree:Assume from the start that your divorce will be bitter, hostile, and aggressive. That way you can be pleasantly surprised if it isn't. You'll also be prepared in case it is.
You don't know which one you'll have until you're in it, trust me.
Expect the unexpected.If you had the opportunity to tell all of us TAMers that are getting ready to file, just one piece of advice regarding divorcing, what would it be?