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oh come on.......anyone that has been around a while can recognize the late nights are just the beginning of either an affair, toxic friends enabling poor behavior and lowering of boundaries, or an unconscious "escape" from the marriage.

this is just the tip of the iceberg……..and its growing.
 

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He said this happens maybe once a week, sometimes every other.
oh come on.......anyone that has been around a while can recognize the late nights are just the beginning of either an affair, toxic friends enabling poor behavior and lowering of boundaries, or an unconscious "escape" from the marriage.

this is just the tip of the iceberg……..and its growing.
What’s strange is he says, all throughout his posts, he doesn’t like this friend. Yet, here we sit, debating his controlling behavior when he has stopped posting.

It isn’t about her other GNOs, her going out with other friends until 2am or going out every other week or more. It is this particular friend, who said something to their kids, they both agreed she did something wrong and his wife refuses to cut her out of the marriage.

No, you remain single if you want to have any type of friend you like.
No, you divorce if you think a friend is more important than your marriage.
 

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Until you grow a backbone the problem will remain. She is walking all over you.

You can’t control her but you can control yourself.

You either set the tone hard and fast or just keep being her toy.

Situations like yours are common here. Your going to talk talk talk talk talk talk talk and talk some more until your blue in the face........but nothing is going to happen until you DO something.
 

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He said this happens maybe once a week, sometimes every other.
Still one to many IMO. My W goes out late with her girlfriends once every 3-4 months. And late for them is maybe 1130. This is by her choosing.
 

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Still one to many IMO. My W goes out late with her girlfriends once every 3-4 months. And late for them is maybe 1130. This is by her choosing.


Everyone is different. It doesn’t matter. The OP stopped posting. He is going to think what he wants and he will never be on the same page as his wife. Spouses are suppose to be teammates. This isn’t it.
 
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