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After a 25 year marriage, in which we met when I was 14....we divorced on January 2010. After fighting for the marriage for about a year pre divorce...he filed. We had a pretty solid marriage but I received the "I love you but am no longer in love with you" message.
The two of us began dating. Fast forward..he is newly married since May of 2012. I am engaged. We both like each others partners and have been more than friendly. In fact, most are shocked how well we got along during the divorce and his remarriage.
I consider us close. We talk frequently, due to our kids (age 18 and 23) being "lost."
He called last night regarding the kids. He was alone, driving to the pharmacy and began speaking of his wife attending a counselor and he was going to join her with marriage counseling, after the first session.
He said "our marriage was pretty perfect.....I mean it, we had it all." Of course, I stated that it wasn't perfect but always worked together as a team.
Anyway, the just of the conversation gave me the vibe that the grass isn't greener on his side. He has figured out that he has to work at this marriage. He also indicated regrets and how he is closer to me than anyone. It almost felt....like given a chance and circumstances arose that he'd want back in. As he said "it's too late."
I love him to death. He is a good man. He is a great father. I am shocked that this early, in his marriage, he is sharing these things and issues early on.
I'm amazed how things look different when you gain perspective. I don't think I could go back. I am different.
I pray that his marriage works as I feel it would devastate him.
The two of us began dating. Fast forward..he is newly married since May of 2012. I am engaged. We both like each others partners and have been more than friendly. In fact, most are shocked how well we got along during the divorce and his remarriage.
I consider us close. We talk frequently, due to our kids (age 18 and 23) being "lost."
He called last night regarding the kids. He was alone, driving to the pharmacy and began speaking of his wife attending a counselor and he was going to join her with marriage counseling, after the first session.
He said "our marriage was pretty perfect.....I mean it, we had it all." Of course, I stated that it wasn't perfect but always worked together as a team.
Anyway, the just of the conversation gave me the vibe that the grass isn't greener on his side. He has figured out that he has to work at this marriage. He also indicated regrets and how he is closer to me than anyone. It almost felt....like given a chance and circumstances arose that he'd want back in. As he said "it's too late."
I love him to death. He is a good man. He is a great father. I am shocked that this early, in his marriage, he is sharing these things and issues early on.
I'm amazed how things look different when you gain perspective. I don't think I could go back. I am different.
I pray that his marriage works as I feel it would devastate him.