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I guess these questions come from seeing other threads about why look at porn if you're in a relationship etc. So it got me to thinking......

If you watch porn, and had a chance to be in it would you? I don't mean home movies you and your partner make really, but would you be in the porn in industry? Why or why not? If its ok to watch others and love it, why not be in it to?

Also, why do you think some people get into porn? I'm sure a big part of it is easy money...easy being the key word..goodness forbid someone might have to actually "work" for their hard earned money.
 

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No. Porn is disgusting! Think about it! Strip away all the glitz, and tanning spray, the big c0cks, the implants...it's just gross. I wouldn't behave that way for free, so I certainly wouldn't do it for money. BEcause that would make it even worse, IMO.
 

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I could never do porn because I cannot separate love from sex. Could I do porn with my husband? No, because part of the sexual excitement and attraction comes from the feeling that making love is a private, exclusive act. Exposing our most intimate desires to the world would feel cheap to me.
 

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No moral qualms. But, I can't see much of a market for the films I'd make.
No moral issues for me but I know its not for me.

I have a few friends that are very happily married and work for "cam" websites and do well. I know their husbands know about it and they all seem fine with it.

Of course they also say men on the internet are stupid and gross. :p


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When I was in my 20's I could so see that for me! I mean sure at that age, who wouldn't want to
have sex with lots of women for money. Seriously though I have a distant relative who actually was in the porn industry for awhile.
He started out when he was around 20 or 21 yrs of age. I remember when he got out of it, he shared with the family what life was like
in the porn world. Its not what a lot of people think, and he said most people pump it up to make it out to be glamorous and that its just wonderful.
He said it was quite the opposite. He did say in the beginning it seemed like it was what people claimed, but took a quick nose dive into reality.

There was/is lots of drug use. Abuse of all kinds, physical, mental, verbal etc, not only from other cast members
but from the crew especially. Lots of the "fantasy scenes" such as rape fantasy are really just that, rape. While cameras and rolling and off.
He walked in on people before who this was actually being done to them, and told if they didn't they would lose their job. A lot of the actors in the films are high, some are so high they don't even really realize whats going on. He said some porn stars he knew would give interviews and tell in public how much they loved it, it was great, they are treated well, etc, but behind closed doors when cameras are off they give a different side, and how they want out, and its terrible etc. I guess if you're paid the right amount of money and given your dope and given nice things you would say anything to the public. He said some people don't want to know there is a dark side of the industry, they want it to remain in a glamourous light and that these bad things really don't happen. Then there are some who simply do not care how bad it is.

He mentioned how some women had to go to plastic surgeons from time to time, not for implants, but to get their vaginas and rectums sowed up and reconstructed from over use and worn out. One womans rectum was so bad and big from gang bangs it messed her bowels up, and thats all I will say on that issue. I remember someone saying maybe he was just in with the wrong porn company and he needed to get into a better one, he said, there are no "better" companies, most are like that where ever you go. So now that I'm older I view things in a different light, so I would say, No I wouldn't get into it.
 

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I've heard the argument if one enjoys a little porn themselves but wouldn't want our daughters involved or we ourselves involved ...this deems us on the par of a Hypocrite. I can only explain where I am coming from as some may see me in this light. But I surely am not alone on this one.

No, I would not get into porn, as I personally only believe in "emotionally connected" sex (for myself >>> this means everything to me ~ Romance/ sharing deep intimacy with 1 person....like Lovesherman said here >> "I could never do porn because I cannot separate love from sex." Me -100%... so is the husband.

This...however, does not mean that I judge those who engage in this sort of lifestyle or even job title.... if they can handle it separating the 2.... we all have our own enjoyments in life ~ none of us are the same ... I don't expect everyone to look through my intimacy lenses....if they have a fabulous body/ enjoy new & different partners / it's worth the $$ to them....& they can gracefully separate love from "just sex" (& on the job) - I am not standing here judging them. I will even enjoy what they produce - if it is to my liking.

In honesty...I can not sit here & say all Porn repulses me, I would be lying through my teeth... I do feel the majority of us get a little rise by laying our eyes on a hot looking body showing enthusiam & passion in the sexual (just as women enjoy an R rated love scene )...and most of us surely have some "fantasies" ...... I feel this is normal sexual behavior... not something to look down upon ourselves for...unless, of course, like many things.. an addiction/obsession springs forth & it interferes with our marriage & our Jacking to screen images over our partners. Horrendous NO NO.

Me & my husband only enjoy Soft Porn, the sensual, the "one on one" romantic scenes....(a challenge to find mind you!)... My husband can't stand anything demeaning to a woman, No 3somes for us - or anything outside of 2 people enjoying the act .... he enjoys solo women. Our tastes are very mild in this way. It's been an enhancement to our sex lives even.

One of my favorite couples is Voodoo & his wife Nicole Sheridan ..They are HERE - they are HOT together.. for a time I think they only engaged on screen with each other, which we thought was very sweet.
 

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nope.no drugs allowed on my sexy sitcom :D no abuse,no drugs. It'll be a sex sitcom that mostly women will watch bc it has a plot and smart dialogue in addition to awesome sex scenes.

oh and cute clothes with awesome shoes.absolutely.
 

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Nope sure wouldn't. Its not for me. Sex is between me and my wife not everyone else.

As far as why some people get into porn, I'm sure the reasons vary. I think money is part of it, but not as big as some people think.Some are probably lost souls, in search of love and attention they didn't get growing up. Trying to numb the hurt and pain and fill a void. Most who crave this, will do most anything to get it, and the money is just a plus in their lives.

Many of the articles I have read about people in the industry or those who got out, never have I read a story where they say they got into it because they thought so highly of themselves and their self esteem was so awesome they just had to share their bodies by having sex with strangers for money. Most or sad/horrific stories of why they chose that profession. Most don't do it based on high self worth.
 

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I've met with a couple of people involved with the industry, not in production or talent, they've all been, what's the word, repulsive.
 
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