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Ok, so I've just had a look through the website that she mentioned during the blow up last night and a few pages in, it comes up with a page of escort profiles. There, smack bang in the middle of the page is a profile with a picture of her. It's one of the pictures that I found last night. The ad for her says "on holiday, back soon!" though? Its even got her name, just spelt differently. My head is tingling with adrenaline and I don't know what the ** to do now. She is on the afternoon shift at work now and I won't get hold of her even if I try to call now. I want to message her and ask her what the **, but everything I have been reading here says I should say nothing until I have more answers. This can't be what it looks like :(

What do I do?
You get your things and ghost.
 

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Hey all, have since confirmed everything I need to know and more, she denied it at first but then an hour or so after a heated phone call she called back and admitted the truth.

Was a short phone call, basically she just said "It's true, I was an escort, I'm sorry" and I don't remember much else after that to be honest... brain kinda just went blank. The call was barely a minute or so in duration though and I have since sent a message telling her I will be coming to collect all my stuff on Saturday morning while she's at work, and asked her to not be there otherwise as I aren't interested in seeing her or dragging this out any further now.

The first thing I did was call my mother and tell her the news, just blurted it out to her as soon as she picked up the phone and bawlled my eyes out for a few minutes.

I have told her I will be taking myself of the lease on the place we have been living and that is now her problem to deal with.

I found reviews written about her on "punter" forums where they describe in great detail their sessions with her, which read like a script for exactly what our sex sessions were like. Don't get me wrong, she was great fun in the bedroom, but it turns out she is well practiced. The only difference between what they got and what I got is they were paying for it. Also, it turns out she is quite renowned for her passion and enthusiasm, especially when it comes to unprotected blow job's (referred to as BBBJ) and loves cum on her face.

I'll be getting tested this afternoon, that goes without saying.

*ing sucks reading some of those posts and realising the reason why she was sometimes a little later arriving to my place on a Friday night for our usual weekends together was because she was busy sucking some dudes * and copping a load on the face - sucks even more that the first thing I would do when she walked in the door was give her a great big kiss on those lips.

Oh well, **** happens. I have sent some of the pictures to the admin that posted here and she can do what she chooses with them. They are publicly available anyway by her own choosing and quite frankly I don't give two ****s what happens from here.

I wanted to let you all know the conclusion to this given I went and opened up about it to you all, but I have a lot to process and get through personally now, so I'm going to leave it at that and wish you all the best.

Worst. Hangover. Ever.
Well look at this way you will have a good story I guess.

Seriously you dodged a very large bullet. You will be thanking the man upstairs one day.
 

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I know I said I was going after my last post, but I'm sitting here going over and over it all in my head and couldn't help but check back in here...

Anyway, thanks - I have been unable to sleep and my entire thought process since stumbling on the images on Saturday night has been a one track mind, unable to think about anything else. So I have had a fair bit of free time to look for clues to follow up and answers to support the now confirmed facts.

I have one of those personalities that allows me to keep the emotion at bay and focus on dealing with the immediate problem. But the flip side of that is, this same personality trait tends to push that emotion etc so far back, I know myself well enough to expect that the emotional fall out for me is still to come and when it does, it will be very significant. I don't think anyone would disagree that this kind of thing is likely to cause some real emotional scarring and damage if not dealt with properly and once I start to feel that creeping in, I may have to get some counselling to help.

So while it might appear to be a fairly quick and decisive result on this now, I am fully aware that this is likely to come back and haunt me in the not too distant future.

But importantly, I have now got the "known, knowns" (the facts) and I have made decisions on and dealt with the immediate problem of the relationship with her accordingly. I am confident these are the logical and rational decisions that will ensure the best outcome for me in this.

I'm still discovering stuff... I can't help but keep searching and reading through these escort forums etc. But I have set a limit for myself on that and will quit doing that after today, and wake up tomorrow hopefully having had a good solid sleep.

The fact is, the lying and deciet was a deal breaker for me. "standard" Cheating would have been a deal breaker very likely too. But a coordinated, executed and planned campaign of cheating involving creating adds, burner phones, specifically renting an apartment with the requirements of the spare room for escorting and the overall full time double life she has well and truely demonstrated she was capable of maintaining in such a compartmentalised manner is just a whole other level of bad.

Someone who can do that, to someone they love, but most importantly - to themselves - is an emotionally and/or mentally damaged person. All the best to them in life, but I aren't prepared to bring that kind of liability into my life. **** that.
Give yourself more credit. You did great. Of course you might need some counseling. No shame in that. But you set yourself up for a very good life by being proactive and assertive. So you got tricked, happens to all of us. Really this was a little extreme but assholes are assholes. The most important thing is you don't want to marry them. You damn sure don't want to have kids with them.

Your last paragraph shows a lot of wisdom. You are gonna be fine. You will learn from this and end up with someone better. Just takes a little time.
 

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@KillerHangover it turned out that your fiancée is a prostitute.

Don't seek revenge, don't do anything except move on.

She's a lovely girl, but no. She is not for you.

In fact marrying a prostitute can cause legal problems, at least in the UK, because even if the husband doesn't want his wife to be a prostitute, he can be deemed to be living off immoral earnings and end up in jail.
 

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@KillerHangover it turned out that your fiancée is a prostitute.

Don't seek revenge, don't do anything except move on.

She's a lovely girl, but no. She is not for you.

In fact marrying a prostitute can cause legal problems, at least in the UK, because even if the husband doesn't want his wife to be a prostitute, he can be deemed to be living off immoral earnings and end up in jail.
WTF!!!!

Even if he didn’t know???
 

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She's a lovely girl, but no. She is not for you.

I don't know, if your fiancee is secretly a call girl doing everything for everyone for a buck, that we should describe her as a "lovely girl", unless maybe we are talking about skin-deep physical loveliness...
 

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Hope the move out of your place was smooth and she respected your wish that she stay away.

take care of yourself
It is complete natural to hurt after getting rid of her. It just shows your feelings for her were real.

good luck and stay strong

and don’t hesitate to come back her if you need help
 

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I don't know, if your fiancee is secretly a call girl doing everything for everyone for a buck, that we should describe her as a "lovely girl", unless maybe we are talking about skin-deep physical loveliness...
Remember the old saying "appearances can be deceptive"?

They often can be.
 

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Remember the old saying "appearances can be deceptive"?

They often can be.
Yes, I agree.
She might be lovely, we have no idea where she is coming from. Few of us have not hurt several people badly.
And, he would be liable for living off immoral earning, regardless of whether he knew. Firstly, he would still be living off them and secondly the "I did not know" defence would be difficult to overcome in any situation otherwise.
 

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Would it not be dangerous to have johns come to her residence? Address plus misspelled first name plus pic of her face could get quite a bit info about her. Would she need another man for johns who refuse to pay?
 

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If she is an escort the agency would handle payments.
The agency payment is for the "escort" service. Conversation and companionship. $270 per hour for that. Not for "additional services." How much the agency gets and the escort gets out of the agency fee, I don't know. I believe the escort gets about a third of that. Other "services" are negotiated separately between the john and the "escort." The money is in cash in an envelope on a table before any "additional services" are provided. The agency might do some minimal background of johns and might have minimal security. There is a repetitive customer base, so probably she saw the same guys over and over. And she made a good bit more than $270 per hour. But it is dangerous to let johns know where you live in my opinion.
 
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