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In Arizona, during the 1880s boom-town era, it was not uncommon for a man and wife to open a saloon together. The husband would run the bar while the wife serviced cowboys and miners upstairs. It happened a lot. Wyatt Earp was his common-law wife's pimp. Wyatt's oldest brother James ran a successful saloon and brothel in Tombstone and his wife was the madame who also entertained clients. It was a fairly common practice during the post-Civil War America, where social mores had lapsed in the face of massive reconstruction. Interesting how this behavior has come full circle in our society.
I've read the history, and my answer is just: BARF...
 

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Ask to see her taxes for the last few years. See if she could afford her lifestyle and tuition based on the w-2s


You know what is going on. Yes, it will hurt like hell for a while, but what else do you need before you pull the plug?

She was only away on vacation!!!
She was going to return from vacation soon! Didn’t you say that she was talking about returning to that town???


have you called for a dr.’s appointment yet to get checked for every disease known to man????? Even if she bought condoms in bulk, are you trying to believe not one of them ever broke???

just be happy you found out the truth now instead of after you married the ***** and had kids!!!!

don’t walk, FREAKIN RUN!!!!!!
 

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You said the escort site said she was on vacation. Did it mention when she would return?

The pictures were most likely for the escort site. Like a picture of food on a menu.

Escort site?
Supply of condoms in her bedroom?
Talking about returning to the town? Money getting low and time to end the vacation?
RUN FAST AND FAR.
 

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-- Calling the "admin" job to confirm she works/worked there.
-- Checking her taxes.
-- Asking what the condoms were for.
-- Having her to contact the "roomate" with you listening (and having her show you the apartment lease with the "roomate's" signature).
-- Contacting the escort site to see if she will be available when she was planning to return to "visit friends" (and how long she's been working there, customer ratings, etc.).
-- Tracking down other escort sites/cam sites with her images (Google image search?).
-- Phone recovery tools.
-- Polygraph

You have lots of options. However, at this point, it just might not be worth the effort.
 

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Hey all, have since confirmed everything I need to know and more, she denied it at first but then an hour or so after a heated phone call she called back and admitted the truth.

Was a short phone call, basically she just said "It's true, I was an escort, I'm sorry" and I don't remember much else after that to be honest... brain kinda just went blank. The call was barely a minute or so in duration though and I have since sent a message telling her I will be coming to collect all my stuff on Saturday morning while she's at work, and asked her to not be there otherwise as I aren't interested in seeing her or dragging this out any further now.

The first thing I did was call my mother and tell her the news, just blurted it out to her as soon as she picked up the phone and bawlled my eyes out for a few minutes.

I have told her I will be taking myself of the lease on the place we have been living and that is now her problem to deal with.

I found reviews written about her on "punter" forums where they describe in great detail their sessions with her, which read like a script for exactly what our sex sessions were like. Don't get me wrong, she was great fun in the bedroom, but it turns out she is well practiced. The only difference between what they got and what I got is they were paying for it. Also, it turns out she is quite renowned for her passion and enthusiasm, especially when it comes to unprotected blow job's (referred to as BBBJ) and loves cum on her face.

I'll be getting tested this afternoon, that goes without saying.

****ing sucks reading some of those posts and realising the reason why she was sometimes a little later arriving to my place on a Friday night for our usual weekends together was because she was busy sucking some dudes **** and copping a load on the face - sucks even more that the first thing I would do when she walked in the door was give her a great big kiss on those lips.

Oh well, **** happens. I have sent some of the pictures to the admin that posted here and she can do what she chooses with them. They are publicly available anyway by her own choosing and quite frankly I don't give two ****s what happens from here.

I wanted to let you all know the conclusion to this given I went and opened up about it to you all, but I have a lot to process and get through personally now, so I'm going to leave it at that and wish you all the best.

Worst. Hangover. Ever.
 

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Hope you are getting thoroughly tested
 
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What a massively crappy person to allow you to fall in love and ask for her hand, while living this double life of massively gross infidelity. So sorry this happened to you. Actually, it turned out to be the Best. Hangover. Ever.
 

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This was a terrible thing to learn, but it is really a blessing. You dodged a bullet. You handled it well, from discovering the photos to thinking about the past in light of your new discoveries, to not letting her off the hook and getting disclosure of the truth.

Now you can work on 'fixing your picker' for more quality women in the future -- and examine what may have led you to this point.
 

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Hey man .... in all honesty you handled that pretty dang well. You should be patting yourself on the back for quick action.
I know I said I was going after my last post, but I'm sitting here going over and over it all in my head and couldn't help but check back in here...

Anyway, thanks - I have been unable to sleep and my entire thought process since stumbling on the images on Saturday night has been a one track mind, unable to think about anything else. So I have had a fair bit of free time to look for clues to follow up and answers to support the now confirmed facts.

I have one of those personalities that allows me to keep the emotion at bay and focus on dealing with the immediate problem. But the flip side of that is, this same personality trait tends to push that emotion etc so far back, I know myself well enough to expect that the emotional fall out for me is still to come and when it does, it will be very significant. I don't think anyone would disagree that this kind of thing is likely to cause some real emotional scarring and damage if not dealt with properly and once I start to feel that creeping in, I may have to get some counselling to help.

So while it might appear to be a fairly quick and decisive result on this now, I am fully aware that this is likely to come back and haunt me in the not too distant future.

But importantly, I have now got the "known, knowns" (the facts) and I have made decisions on and dealt with the immediate problem of the relationship with her accordingly. I am confident these are the logical and rational decisions that will ensure the best outcome for me in this.

I'm still discovering stuff... I can't help but keep searching and reading through these escort forums etc. But I have set a limit for myself on that and will quit doing that after today, and wake up tomorrow hopefully having had a good solid sleep.

The fact is, the lying and deciet was a deal breaker for me. "standard" Cheating would have been a deal breaker very likely too. But a coordinated, executed and planned campaign of cheating involving creating adds, burner phones, specifically renting an apartment with the requirements of the spare room for escorting and the overall full time double life she has well and truely demonstrated she was capable of maintaining in such a compartmentalised manner is just a whole other level of bad.

Someone who can do that, to someone they love, but most importantly - to themselves - is an emotionally and/or mentally damaged person. All the best to them in life, but I aren't prepared to bring that kind of liability into my life. **** that.
 

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Oh and just out of morbid interest sake, I found details to the hidden bank account she has been saving a lot of the money to obviously and not considering the fact that she has also been paying normal bills and living fairly comfortably on some of the money she has gotten from this, she appears to have saved about 30k in the 12 month period before she moved here with me.

So basic maths says, 30K at her advertised rate of $270 p/h is roughly 111 hours and probably a similar number of random ****s she has had in her.

Sorry that is pretty crude, but that is the kind of dark **** going through my mind right now :sick:
 

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I know I said I was going after my last post, but I'm sitting here going over and over it all in my head and couldn't help but check back in here...

Anyway, thanks - I have been unable to sleep and my entire thought process since stumbling on the images on Saturday night has been a one track mind, unable to think about anything else. So I have had a fair bit of free time to look for clues to follow up and answers to support the now confirmed facts.

I have one of those personalities that allows me to keep the emotion at bay and focus on dealing with the immediate problem. But the flip side of that is, this same personality trait tends to push that emotion etc so far back, I know myself well enough to expect that the emotional fall out for me is still to come and when it does, it will be very significant. I don't think anyone would disagree that this kind of thing is likely to cause some real emotional scarring and damage if not dealt with properly and once I start to feel that creeping in, I may have to get some counselling to help.

So while it might appear to be a fairly quick and decisive result on this now, I am fully aware that this is likely to come back and haunt me in the not too distant future.

But importantly, I have now got the "known, knowns" (the facts) and I have made decisions on and dealt with the immediate problem of the relationship with her accordingly. I am confident these are the logical and rational decisions that will ensure the best outcome for me in this.

I'm still discovering stuff... I can't help but keep searching and reading through these escort forums etc. But I have set a limit for myself on that and will quit doing that after today, and wake up tomorrow hopefully having had a good solid sleep.

The fact is, the lying and deciet was a deal breaker for me. "standard" Cheating would have been a deal breaker very likely too. But a coordinated, executed and planned campaign of cheating involving creating adds, burner phones, specifically renting an apartment with the requirements of the spare room for escorting and the overall full time double life she has well and truely demonstrated she was capable of maintaining in such a compartmentalised manner is just a whole other level of bad.

Someone who can do that, to someone they love, but most importantly - to themselves - is an emotionally and/or mentally damaged person. All the best to them in life, but I aren't prepared to bring that kind of liability into my life. **** that.
You should hang around this place some. I think you probably have a lot to offer... and maybe a lot to learn for your next relationship. You haven’t been around here long enough to read enough stories to understand how well you did. I get the feeling you may have a bit of a rough background.... gave you the edge on “handling sh!t”.
 
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