I've been married for 5 years. I thought we've had a good relationship so far. My wife has developed a friendship with a guy (Ryan) and I'm worried. A few months ago she started acting a little distant. I became worried and started going behind her reading her text messages. She deletes most of her texts cause she doesn't like stuff cluttered. This bothered me at first but she's always been like that with her emails too, even when she acted head over heels for me. Saw some texts to one of her girlfriends saying I was driving her nuts and she was considering a separation but she still loved me. I wasn't able to hide my sadness and we talked the next morning. I told her I was worried about her friendship with Ryan and how I thought it looked like it was developing into something more. She has a ridiculously busy schedule and really doesn't have the free time to physically cheat. She told me they were just friends and not to worry. I honestly think at that point she was being honest and I've been stuck in the friend zone before with women. I thought we were ok and went 2-3 weeks without reading her texts but was never able to shake the feeling that something wasn't right. One morning I read her texts while she was in the shower and saw where she told one of her girlfriends that she thought she was starting to like Ryan. She acknowledged that I'm a good guy and that she loved me but wondered about Ryan. The only thing that has helped me somewhat stay sane in the fact that he is really religious and still a virgin in his mid to late 20's. I don't think he knows she is starting to like him. Her friend (who is friends with Ryan and doesn't know me) said she's all for happy marriages but thought my wife should pursue things with Ryan. She then followed with not to take relationship advice from her cause she has not had a good track record with guys. My wife's response was that she worried about him being a virgin and joked about corrupting him. I haven't confronted her because I want her to still be somewhat relaxed about deleting her texts which it seems she mostly does in the mornings. I usually read her texts at night if when I wake up around 2-3 am. While she may have these feelings, she's really is a good person. We go to church weekly and both of us know the pain of being cheated on. Over the past week I've gone through a wave of emotions. I've been reading as much as I can about marriage advise and wonder if she's just not getting enough communication from me. I'm not a very talkative person and sometimes have a hard time talking about random stuff. Our sex life is I guess average as far as frequency. Usually once a week. But the sex is really good for both of us. I don't know what to do. I treat her like a queen. Sometimes I feel like she takes my kindness for granted.