newly married (about six weeks). She is 44 and Im 51. We are both educated, level headed, smart (at least she is!) in shape, very active, and in a great spot. Love to do everything together, cant stand to be apart. More bonded and connected than I have ever experienced. She says that as well. Of course she is my best friend and we are very much in love. She is petite, in shape and very very gorgeous. Love it!! Im tall and in shape and I think look ok as well. Im in the weight room daily and im in good shape. She is 5'2" and Im 6'5" we are both very very attracted to each other!!! Its fantastic!!! I say this because this background is important. Prior to meeting me she had a relationship for a few months that ended up with a breakup because of his communication, or lack of!! She was in love and very devasteated. She didn't want the break up, and tried to reconcile and it never worked. Im very grateful as she is now the love of my life in everyway. She says she is grateful that happened and while the pain is difficult she is grateful it happened so she could find me. Im having a hard time as I know she was in love with him and they obviously had a sexual relationship for a time. 1. I worry im not good enough for her in bed. We have an amazing sex life and she says its extremely fulfilling, but I get the feeling she really loved her sex life with him. 2. He is short and overweight....im not...I don't understand. 3. Im jealous that she shared this intimacy with him, I get it, at this age that is a given, but Im still jealous, its hard to get over. I want to be BETTER then him big time in everything. I want to be everything for her. I feel im failing. I cant stand the thought of someone else being intimate with her.....yes I know its in the past and I know its my problem but its affecting me . Im getting better with time for sure. Have any of you had similar feelings like this? Yes it is retrograde jealousy, yes its my problem and not hers. She didn't do anything wrong. I don't want to think about being perfect in bed, so that I can out perform him in her eyes, Im tired of worrying about that.....If you have had similar feelings of not wanting to be compared to a previous lover how did you get over that? I know time will help and I admit it is getting better, but I Am curious if anyone has had similar feelings. By the way our sex life is excellent. I know this is my problem not hers. But these feelings are hard and its inhibiting me. We all have baggage and a past. I want to be excellent for her, the best for her. Yes, I am competitive and that's part of my problem as well. I know this is not a major issue, but curious if others have struggled with this issue.