sorry you're having trouble(s)... it's disheartening when lines of communication get shut down!
you mentioned that "he's tried basic communication".
By that, did you mean that after your confrontation with him, he really didn't want to talk about the issue at hand, but did try to make chit-chat?
If yes, I'd recommend that you don't shut him down and/or give the ol' silent treatment to him.. as aggravating as it may be, & even though you're not getting your concern addressed, [at least] you two are "talking", which often tends to lend itself to better times… which can ultimately lead to that just right moment when you're both feeling open, and can address what's bothering you.
It sounds as though your H has a chip on his shoulder when it comes to issues like this one. I don't know anything about you, except what you've just stated; but I would suggest you ask yourself if there is anything that happened in the past to make him defensive like this..(?) I'm not assigning any blame, only asking..
if your H was here, what would he say, when it comes to things that he can't talk to you about? (ie: what's your hang-up when it comes to communicating?)
sometime when you two are talking, maybe you could first talk about things pertaining to you that bother him…that could be an ice-breaker..
then, hopefully, you will have the opportunity to communicate the things about him that are bothering you
i wish you the best.