Hi Daisy,I have never posted in a marriage forum before. So, here goes.
I am 48 years old and have been with my husband for over 4 years. We have a great mariage but as most have our issues.
My biggest frustration is that I cant talk with him about anything that refers to him or he gets very defensive and starts saying hurtful things.
Someone I dont know posted "thanks for the email at work it made my night". Well that bothered me. I asked him about it and he said its someone that he works with that works the night shift who is having problems at work and he is trying to help her. Why would a woman post that on a married mans page. I asked him how would she like it if I posted that on her boyfriends page. He said "she doesnt get mad over stupid sh*% like that". That hurt my feelings so bad. It was like he was disregarding my feelings and taking up for someone I dont even know. This particular issue has happened a few times. I bring up something that bothers me and he turns it around making me feel like I am wrong for allowing it to bother me.
This only makes me not want to say anything about anything that involves him. I cant take the response. We havent talked really in 3 days. Just what we have to say. Hes tried basic conversation but I am just so frustrated that he just wants to sweep it under the rug as always. Its on my mind and I am hurt by his response that I just get quiet.
Any advice would be appreciated.
It's a grey area where you draw the line in regard to opposite sex friends. I would suggest you try and have a calm conversation about it with him and agree where the line should be drawn...remembering that you have to live with the same line!!
Ultimately, you have to trust each other. If he is going to cheat he is going to cheat....just like if you are going to cheat you are going to cheat. There is only so much you can do towards preventing it.
Is it really the issue that you can't talk about anything to do with him, in all areas? Or was that just a way to introduce your concern over his relationship with the girl at work?