[Ragnar Ragnasson]

We had this exact same topic like a month ago. Your husband is an ass.

Here is a similar discussion
Dealbreaker?

I was thinking it's the same poster different moniker.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

My wife had two very difficult pregnancies and deliveries and I could not get to the urologist's office fast enough after #2 was declared out of the woods.

I walked in the office and said either they disconnect the plumbing or I'll do it myself right here in the lobby in front of God and country, their choice.

I have no sympathy for guys too chicken to do a literally 5 minute procedure.

I had it done like 15 yrs ago, maybe 20yrs. No issues. W did her time on bc pills, then we agreed def no more kids, then I did my part. Sex has never been better.
I haven't worn a condom in 39 years.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

I just want to point out here. Birth control doesn't make most women feel healthy or normal. Birth control has lots of side effects including depression and loss of libido.

However, I can share for some it works out well.

DW didn't have any issues, but due to possible long term health risks I did decide to get the snip. That worked out just fine.

There was a bit of swelling a couple days, couple weeks to heal.

I do remember we had fun making a party of making sure any real ammunition was ejected from the gun multiple times as recommended before blanks were confirmed. A OK.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

There is a rare condition where a person is allergic to ejaculate. You've had a lot of other problems, so I doubt that's it, but if your current gyn isn't getting to the bottom of why it would hurt to be ejaculated into, then change doctors! Maybe you are still too thin and fragile in your tissue down there. I will say that the vaginal insert estradial works as well as anything and is supposed to be safe. Be sure your doc isn't just an ob, because they do not stay current on hormone therapy, according to my primary care doctor who cautioned me about using one for gyn. What I do is call the nurse and have them call back and ask if the doctor stays current on hormone therapy, attends conferences, online instruction, etc. Or you can google and insert "hormone therapy" into your search for a doctor because some specialize.

Meanwhile, if intercourse hurts, don't do it. If you are in menopause, can you even still get pregnant? If not, the vasectomy is irrelevant at this point. It doesn't stop him ejaculating.

Best ever. If OP is in menopause, can there even be a pregnancy, certainly not after.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

in the beginning of menopause you are still ovulating just less often so yes you can still get pregnant

Also you don't have to be allergic to ejaculate for it to disturb the microbiome in your vagina and cause irritation or increased infections.

Sorry for a bit of side track, but besides some typical issues down there and the eventually hysterectomy, I'm durn glad we, specifically DW didn't have these issues.

We only drew closer during the partial then full hysterectomy, that was a big deal of course.

I've never been to a gynecologist so much in my life than during those couple years! 🙂🙂🤣🤣

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

Some women are lucky and find menopause a trouble free relief. But I'm 69 and I can't tell you how many problems I've had that are too personal go into on this forum from old age. It's amazing how many things can go wrong, and believe me most men would be put off by them.

Women just impress me with the challenges and dealing with them, in that delicate area.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

And many women don't but that doesn't me the OP isn't experiencing issues. I think OP has a perfectly reasonable request to not ejaculate in her until the issues can be resolved. Her partner couldn't be bothered to answer that it was ok.

Hold your roll. I didn't say she didn't have a perfectly reasonable request.