My wife and I have been married for 21 years. We have become really distant from one another and I feel like our marriage is in a slow decline. We are outwardly happy. My career is doing great, our home is beautiful, finances are in great shape, and I get a lot of satisfaction from other things.
We do not have any children together. She has a child that was born from when we were separated for some time. That child is 15. I am in my mid 40s (as is my wife) and its started to bother me much more to not have any children of my own. I assume its far too late for her to get pregnant (she is 43) and we haven't had any success naturally in the past. I do want a child that I can raise and love. There is an emptiness in me. I think a child could bring us closer. I want to have a son and do some of those father-son things.
I haven't done my research into the whole adopting, surrogacy, etc processes to know what is best for us. Money probably should not be an issue.
I am going to bring the topic up with my wife soon and was hoping to hear some other perspectives. Will it bring us closer. Bad idea? Good idea?
I think she will be receptive to the idea but if she is not, it may be a deal-breaker for me.
We do not have any children together. She has a child that was born from when we were separated for some time. That child is 15. I am in my mid 40s (as is my wife) and its started to bother me much more to not have any children of my own. I assume its far too late for her to get pregnant (she is 43) and we haven't had any success naturally in the past. I do want a child that I can raise and love. There is an emptiness in me. I think a child could bring us closer. I want to have a son and do some of those father-son things.
I haven't done my research into the whole adopting, surrogacy, etc processes to know what is best for us. Money probably should not be an issue.
I am going to bring the topic up with my wife soon and was hoping to hear some other perspectives. Will it bring us closer. Bad idea? Good idea?
I think she will be receptive to the idea but if she is not, it may be a deal-breaker for me.