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I was born and raised in a different country.
I go back and visit my parents about once a year for about 3-4 weeks. That's more than enough for me. There's no way I can stay there for 3 months!
I understand the feelings of missing your culture, food, family love and relationships. I really need to go and visit them at least once a year. My husband knows how I feel and he respects and supports my trips.
I also know and appreciate his support. I really don't spend money on stupid stuff. My husband doesn't have to "control" me because he knows I won't waste money.
I think it's a matter of common sense. If you are careless with money, it's obvious you need someone to tell you how to manage your money. If a spouse is careless with money I think the other spouse should stop it because the carelessness is going to hurt the whole family in the long run. Someone needs to be responsible.
We have friends, who make double or more of what we make, who are so deep in debt, it's really amazing to me not to realize how stupid that is!!! They'll be working past 65 while we'll be sipping margaritas in Playa del Carmen. I really don't understand their thinking.
I don't think I can be married to someone who is not financially responsible.
Why are you still married to your wife? She knows what she wants (spend money on shoes and clothes.) You'll be better off single or with someone who has the same mindset you have.
I go back and visit my parents about once a year for about 3-4 weeks. That's more than enough for me. There's no way I can stay there for 3 months!
I understand the feelings of missing your culture, food, family love and relationships. I really need to go and visit them at least once a year. My husband knows how I feel and he respects and supports my trips.
I also know and appreciate his support. I really don't spend money on stupid stuff. My husband doesn't have to "control" me because he knows I won't waste money.
I think it's a matter of common sense. If you are careless with money, it's obvious you need someone to tell you how to manage your money. If a spouse is careless with money I think the other spouse should stop it because the carelessness is going to hurt the whole family in the long run. Someone needs to be responsible.
We have friends, who make double or more of what we make, who are so deep in debt, it's really amazing to me not to realize how stupid that is!!! They'll be working past 65 while we'll be sipping margaritas in Playa del Carmen. I really don't understand their thinking.
I don't think I can be married to someone who is not financially responsible.
Why are you still married to your wife? She knows what she wants (spend money on shoes and clothes.) You'll be better off single or with someone who has the same mindset you have.
