Hello I am new here obviously... Little back story. I have been married 2 years come Nov 1st, been together 3 years, we are both Military, and sadly been stationed apart for 2 months now as she just joined, I am Army she is Navy, I am out in December hence why she joined... Now onto the problem's
She is in FL for training, and has this "friend" from boot camp they don't have the same job, but are within 2 miles of each other , I was checking our phone records and she just got her phone on 9/21/12 when she finished boot camp. She has texted this "friend" over 300 times in the matter of two days and an hour long phone call... while me and our kids have gotten maybe 5 minutes here and there.... then I have gotten about 50 texts from her... I brought this all up in a very tactful way... which of course blew up into a huge fight...
She told me I needed to trust her and how he is just a friend and he has a finacee and all this other stuff, Then came the worst part to me, for those who know military ranking, she started calling me SGT (Lastname)... I never would ask her to call me that... I am her damn husband not her boss... it really hurt that she took it to that level. My last text to her was "Sorry give me a month then you guys can be friends and text all you want, just please give me and kids your time first vs being the last ones you text"
"Forget it I will just never talk to any guys ever and when I get assaulted I can just know it happened cuz I had no guy friends to help Good night Sgt (xxxx)"
I am hurting right now and don't know what to do
She is in FL for training, and has this "friend" from boot camp they don't have the same job, but are within 2 miles of each other , I was checking our phone records and she just got her phone on 9/21/12 when she finished boot camp. She has texted this "friend" over 300 times in the matter of two days and an hour long phone call... while me and our kids have gotten maybe 5 minutes here and there.... then I have gotten about 50 texts from her... I brought this all up in a very tactful way... which of course blew up into a huge fight...
She told me I needed to trust her and how he is just a friend and he has a finacee and all this other stuff, Then came the worst part to me, for those who know military ranking, she started calling me SGT (Lastname)... I never would ask her to call me that... I am her damn husband not her boss... it really hurt that she took it to that level. My last text to her was "Sorry give me a month then you guys can be friends and text all you want, just please give me and kids your time first vs being the last ones you text"
"Forget it I will just never talk to any guys ever and when I get assaulted I can just know it happened cuz I had no guy friends to help Good night Sgt (xxxx)"
I am hurting right now and don't know what to do