My WIFE will not allow my MOTHER to visit me in our home, even if she is not home. They cannot get along, and i can deal with that. We have children and my wife doesnt want my mother visiting with me and our kids, unless she is there to "supervise". And she has made it clear that this will only happen once a month. I would like my mom to come visit at our house and since they dont get along, i would like her to come over when my wife is away. In addition my wife will not allow me to take the kids to see her at her house, my wife refuses to go to my moms, therefore the kids cant go. Her main reason for this because my mom smokes, but not if the kids are in the house, and she obviously doesnt smoke in our house. My wifes controlling ways are destroying our relationship, and she feels like she has already compromised, and wont budge. She said not to let my mom in our house, but her reasons just dont add up. At this point i am ready to just allow my mother over next time the wife is away, and take what ever comes with it. If I tell her ahead of time, she will not leave the house. I have begged her to change her mind, but i have not made any progress, and its tearing me up inside. Should i have my mother over for a visit?