My wife and I have been together for 18 yrs; however I have not been there for her the past 8 yrs. Yes I have been around but not on a emotional or sexual level. 5 mths ago Tamra asked for a 12 mth separation, during that time I have had a lot of time to think about what I have done wrong. These 5mths have been the hardest in my life and I am having trouble coping with the separation. I know I need to give Tamra her space but I just keep thinking that if I let her go I will never get her back, but in the mean time me being not able to give Tamra her space is pushing her further away. Ever y time we talk I end up in a sobbing mess, my emotions just run out of control. Help what can I do?