My wife asked for a separation on Monday night. I have been working extra hours at a second job because we have been saving money to by a home, the past couple of weeks she has been hanging out with the neighbor whom we are friends with while I'm at work so she isn't "bored". Well now she wants to separate because she and the neighbor have developed feelings for each other and instead of wanting to try to work on our marriage and get to the bottom of our problems, she has decided she would rather end nearly 6 years of marriage to try out a relationship for this guy that shes developed feelings for after hanging out alone a few times. She tells me now that she's been unhappy for a long time, that it feels like we are just best friends and roommate, she never said anything about this before, until this relationship with him started. I told her I didn't want a separation and I wanted to work on our marriage and maybe try a marriage counselor but she says she doesn't want to try, that our marriage is not savable. The other problem is we have a 18 month old son. She wants me to continue to stay in the house and for us to continue to live as a family because she loves our family. I think she just wants me to be here to help pay the bills and watch the baby while she's off with her new love interest. I really want to save our marriage because I love her a lot and I love our family and the life we have built together but I don't know where to start or if I should even bother trying. I'm miserable and confused. A few days ago I was happy, now I'm falling apart, I cant sleep, cant eat, and my chest hasnt stopped hurting since she told me, it is taking me everything I have to keep it together when at work. Any advice?