Listening to people here makes me feel that I am at fault to some extent as I haven't been able to work due to my condition or not to be in control of my own bank account and claim money. As you say, I trusted her and that's what spouses do - she betrayed that trust.So you are NOT at fault here for trusting your wife with the finances, esp. since YOU weren't in any sort of place to deal with it. That's what spouses do -- they trust each other, they help each other, they support each other when there are long term illness issues, etc.. YOUR spouse just helped HERSELF to all this $$ and in my opinion is purposely TRYING to make sure you don't have any resources to fight her. I AM glad that you did get this lawyer and that they seem to be on top of things (I REALLY hope you nail her for fraud).
She obviously has been planning this for a LONG time -- I DO think that a forensic accountant may be useful for you in the long run, but need to weigh that against the COST of them vs. what you could recover.
If you are without internet, do you have a smartphone? That way you can keep on top of things here (I hope) and be able to do your research for housing, disability stuff, etc..
I've just had a copy of my medical notes to send through to support my disability claim, I have been telling the doctors and specialists the same thing since 2014. It's all on there how I've had to reluctantly give up my career because of this. It's on my notes how I'm dizzy all the time, they call it "occipital something or other". Also about my pituitary tumour including MRI scan and my left arm tingling and numbness, especially sitting at a desk. It's sad reading back through them and seeing how much this has ruined my life. Send that off today.
Going away for a couple of days to look at houses. Only 3, but also looking at the area to see what things are like. 4.5 hour journey.
As far as the court goes, my stbxw has 7 days to respond to the court petition.