Wife says I never ask her to go anywhere do I do and she says no LOL
Gotta love 'em.
I stopped asking my wife to go places for a while because I got tired of her either
1. Saying no
2. Changing the time or day
3. Offering something else
I just started saying I'm going to blanket blank at such a such a time.
She's says Oh OK. Sometimes she pouted but usually she didn't.
Eventually she got upset and said "You never ask me to go anywhere any more."
I said "That's because you always say no and that gets real old real fast and I am sick of it. If you would knock that off, I would ask you more. I never csre what you ask me to do, I game because I'm with you."
She agrees.
So I have asked her ten times if she want to go somewhere and she said no ten times.
I point this out and she denies it.
:lol:
WTF?
I pointed it out again and she is being more flexible now and we have had a nice two week run of memories.
In case you are wondering where I asked her to go
Concert, Lunch, Dinner, Shopping, Errand, Walk, Hike, Game, Etc
Nothing weird.
I think it was a bad habit of laziness, inflexibility and lack of awareness that it was hurtful.
She did not know she was doing that.
I have done everything I could to be mindful of what she would enjoy when asking but she couldn't seem to accept an idea unless it was her own.
FWIW she is a planner and I am very spontaneous
Yea maybe she doesn't like me. LOL
Gotta love 'em.
I stopped asking my wife to go places for a while because I got tired of her either
1. Saying no
2. Changing the time or day
3. Offering something else
I just started saying I'm going to blanket blank at such a such a time.
She's says Oh OK. Sometimes she pouted but usually she didn't.
Eventually she got upset and said "You never ask me to go anywhere any more."
I said "That's because you always say no and that gets real old real fast and I am sick of it. If you would knock that off, I would ask you more. I never csre what you ask me to do, I game because I'm with you."
She agrees.
So I have asked her ten times if she want to go somewhere and she said no ten times.
I point this out and she denies it.
:lol:
WTF?
I pointed it out again and she is being more flexible now and we have had a nice two week run of memories.
In case you are wondering where I asked her to go
Concert, Lunch, Dinner, Shopping, Errand, Walk, Hike, Game, Etc
Nothing weird.
I think it was a bad habit of laziness, inflexibility and lack of awareness that it was hurtful.
She did not know she was doing that.
I have done everything I could to be mindful of what she would enjoy when asking but she couldn't seem to accept an idea unless it was her own.
FWIW she is a planner and I am very spontaneous
Yea maybe she doesn't like me. LOL