Went out for anniversary dinner the other night...16 years. Was going ok but then wife made a snipe like she has for months and we got into again. I tried to explain that I love her but i can't take her being rude and mean to me anymore.
Background, last year at this time...she told me that she was miserable for years. Of course my business and in turn our finances went south about same time.
Anyway, did the counseling thing...been trying to get back on track and there have been bumps of course but thought things were going ok.
Anyway, i told her at dinner i love her and still find her attractive...she smiles like a chesire cat and i press her onwhat she is hiding..
She tells me that she never found me all that physically attractive...and that right now not at all...she was attracted to something but its not there anymore..,..although she is trying to connect to it again. I know i'm not brad pitt but i'm not hideous by any means.
first all...any thoughts on what prompted her to be so rude?
We are still climbing back financially but getting better all the time...
Anyway, i''m wanting to bail because i have had it...kissed her ass more than ever past year and in reality did for most of our marriage.
I have kids so i don't want to be selfish but i don't want to live like this either..
I steamed over this for a day and then lost it on her the next day...said crime doesn't fit punishment and if she is unhappy she can leave..
since then she is better...but again...why is she being such an ass?
also she is 40 and i'm convinced some of this is hormones as she is on birth control that gives her a period only every three months...must be screwing up her hormones...
Background, last year at this time...she told me that she was miserable for years. Of course my business and in turn our finances went south about same time.
Anyway, did the counseling thing...been trying to get back on track and there have been bumps of course but thought things were going ok.
Anyway, i told her at dinner i love her and still find her attractive...she smiles like a chesire cat and i press her onwhat she is hiding..
She tells me that she never found me all that physically attractive...and that right now not at all...she was attracted to something but its not there anymore..,..although she is trying to connect to it again. I know i'm not brad pitt but i'm not hideous by any means.
first all...any thoughts on what prompted her to be so rude?
We are still climbing back financially but getting better all the time...
Anyway, i''m wanting to bail because i have had it...kissed her ass more than ever past year and in reality did for most of our marriage.
I have kids so i don't want to be selfish but i don't want to live like this either..
I steamed over this for a day and then lost it on her the next day...said crime doesn't fit punishment and if she is unhappy she can leave..
since then she is better...but again...why is she being such an ass?
also she is 40 and i'm convinced some of this is hormones as she is on birth control that gives her a period only every three months...must be screwing up her hormones...