Would you call someone who missed work when you only see them an hour or so every now and then? Not unless the relationship was something more than work related.

Sorry man. But everything points towards a lot more that you don't know about. If you put D on the table and are serious about it, she will spill the beans.

 

Even if it is 75 percent accurate. That is better than trying To get the truth from a 100 percent liar.

To me, a polygraph is a consequence and it affords a great opportunity for a last minute rememberance of details.

Do I think they are fool proof. Certainly not, but I do feel they have a place.
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I thought the idea was ridiculous when it was originally floated to me.

After year to consider it, it's brilliant. Most WS's would be wildly appalled at the idea, especially if they're hiding something. It seems like something from the movies. Then reality sets in that they might get hooked up to one and it's a very good test for true remorse IMO.

 

Hey Raulph any updates.

 

Update?
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Update: Life is good or has been so far, no worries. but tonight I found out she is working with him again, I found out because I checked her schedule, until now she has been changing shifts with her friends so she would not be working with him, It really hasn't been a issue, so should I bring this up, I mean she didn't ask if it was ok or if I would be concerned if she was working with him again.
I haven't even let her know that I know that she is working with him.

 

GTFO out of this marriage.

 

Just a fyi to you all, she was first with him 3 weeks before we met, it wasn't years before it was weeks, and to get you all up to date she is now pregnant. So...

 

What do you mean "SO"? Can you be certain who the father is? I'd think not. This is a serious problem and perhaps time for a serious confrontation. You've got all sorts of minor suspicious stuff going on, but all together they add up to a lot.

I don't understand how you can know that your wife and the OM were not together for the very short time it takes to get pregnant. Or are you saying that you are sure the baby is not yours?

You know as well as I do that some men think the best way to get even with a guy who took a girl away from them is to get the girl pregnant.

Take care, man. We are rooting for you.

 

dna the child.

 

Anyone else see a train wreck coming...

Dont sign the birth cert until you go to Walmart and get the paternity test done. Like 129 dollars. There is one that can be done for 2000 while pregnant that is not amnio.

 

did she tell you that it was a ONS or a few weeks of dating ?

 

At the very least. You must confront her.

There must be boundaries that are respected in your marriage.

Why didn't she tell you

If she was changing her shift to avoid him before... She knows better. Hiding this kind of crap is not good.

Do not turn a blind eye.

Certainly get a paternity test
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My recommendation is to work on his own insecurities and lack of confidence rather than to keep badgering her and making himself look like an insecure weakling who believes his woman will look for outside excitement at the drop of a hat.

 

Raulph who was the student that she was dating? The one her friend mentioned before your wedding. The timing on that guy seems to be when you were dating her as well

Did you ever follow thru with a var or polygraph. What were the results.
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Half of your life is spent trying to make sure---she ain't working with him------tell her point blank once and for all---if she can't get a shift change to a different shift---so this will never come up again---then she needs to quit her job, and either find another hospital in another town, or start a new career doing something else

Get in her face about not telling you she is scheduled to work with her x-sex partner----she needs to be completely open---and not for just 3 months, but for as long as it takes

Your mge ain't gonna survive a year---with the way things are going

 

raulph..... are you for real?
You seem borderline happy plan B.
My wife did not lie to me and she avoids her exes like the plague!

You almost seem comically accepting of this dangerous (infidelity ) type situation.
I guess you can keep having fun on the roller coaster that you decided to get on.

Enjoy the ride my friend!
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Congratulations on becoming a father again. She had a ONS with a coworker 3 years ago. You are understandably upset about the lying and need to resolve some issues. The board has gone into hyperdrive and wants you to burn her at the stake.

Personally, I think you need to slow things down a bit. Make sure that her and the baby are healthy and just take a breather. Additionally, I think that your situation would be improved more by counseling than polygraphs. Take a deep breath and enjoy the moment.

 

The thing is, her lying is robbing him of one of the greatest moments/times of his life.

I'll say that again....HER LYING IS ROBBING HIM, not his ability to block out her lies.