I started this thread in General Discussion and was advised to move it to Dealing with Infidelity. My wife and I have been married for twenty years. I am ten years older than she is. We have a nineteen year old daughter. Last summer we went on our first vacation without kids and had the time of our lives. We have been each other world. I would have never guessed she was having an affair right under my none. This year two weeks before Christmas I found out she was planning to move out of the house. When I confronted her about her plans she said she needed six months to find herself. Within a week I found out she was having an affair with a younger man. When I confronted her she denied everything but I had proof. She then told me it was all my fault I had driven her into the arms of another man. I have faults and I have been in counseling but I would have never cheated on her for any reason. Now she is calling me every day, no remorse, no apologies, like all of this never happened. I love her with all my heart but I do not understand how I am to forget all this. My councilor said she feel there is little hope we will be able to work this out without her showing remorse. I now feel like I am a second choice because her new man is out of her life. This man has broken up 8 or 9 marriages that I know of. She is a very intelligent woman, she knew what he was like. I filed for a d within a couple of days of her leaving. I thought my filing would shock her into rational thought. I was wrong about that call. I want her back in my heart but my head is saying no way what do I do next.