She can be a cashier at a grocery store -- there are other physically undemanding jobs, and at least in the U.S., there are Help Wanted signs all over the place.It's practically impossible to get a job in your late 60's. Even if you are physically capable of working full time.
I know people here in the UK who were only in their late 50's and early 60's who tried for years to get work. Applied for countless jobs. These were people with a good resume as well. One was my SIL. For women it seems far harder. Even if you do manage to get a job in your mid to late 60's, you are probably not going to be fit enough to do it for long. Which is why people have usually retired by this age.I beg to differ. It might be hard for a lot of people, but "impossible", no ma chérie. I'm a living proof of that. At 65 I got a job as the Manager of a QC Micro lab.
Exactly correct. Cheaters ONLY think of themselves. You don't matter. Only her.You can suffer until hell freezes over. It doesn’t bother her at all.
The first thing which is going to come out of the bag when you try to divorce her is her "physical condition". Second will be her "advanced age". Because of your unfortunate physical ailment, you can't enjoy sex anyway. There's no point in a divorce. Finding someone else won't do you a bit of good. The only thing a divorce is going to do for you is give her more than half your money and continuing support for as long as she lives.Do what you want and let her eat your dust.
No, sir..... I must respectfully disagree. The lying woman is no stranger, she is EXACTLY the woman you married, and have given your faithfulness to for 48 years, which was undeserved in every millisecond of it. She most likely lied to you beginning at the altar of your marriage, and her lying has continued every day since. You married a liar. You remain married to a liar, It continues even now.this lying woman is a stranger and not the woman I married
Horse$hit. Just another in a long line of lies.her doctor told her to not engage in sex anymore because thinning tissue in her vagina made it dangerous.
Do you feel ok in the morning? I am only 50 and I could not drink every night. I just feel awful after, even if I do not drink much.(Yes - I've had my 3 drinks for the night.) I'm back but only to assure people I'm not protecting my wife. I'm protecting my grandchildren - I want them to at least grow up and have a hope that love can be real. This may be a fantasy in modern times, but I can hope. Seriously - think about it - I'm almost 70 and incapable of any future sexual relationship - what would I really gain from leaving? I won't take any more s**t from my wife - she lost all rights to tell me what to do. But my grandchildren only have ME as a male role model. Their own mother (my daughter) is divorced from a verbally abusive husband and is now in the middle of a nasty break-up with her subsequent fiance. If I can endure, they may have an example of what love should be (even if not true in our case). Maybe I'm naive, but again I can only hope. I did not cheat, but still made vows I will honor for MY self esteem. I'll be the best I can be. Other than nighttime alcohol to silence my aching heart, daytime life appears normal to others. My health is not suffering and I'm exercising regularly. Just sad thoughts of what should have been. Thanks for letting me vent and I appreciate honest and thought-out responses.
What a load of crap statement that is. You are not protecting anyone, you're just hiding your lack of self respect and dignity in the name of insuring that you get to live "comfy" for the rest of your life.(Yes - I've had my 3 drinks for the night.) I'm back but only to assure people I'm not protecting my wife. I'm protecting my grandchildren
This is passive aggressive genius.There are few options except endure. Incorrect. There are options.
Your daughter heard the truth from your wife. Truth learned in secret, one never intended to see the light of day is the real truth. Don't doubt what you have learned and suspected. As you have said what reason would your daughter have to lie? She was unaware of the issue between you and your wife.
Your marriage is dead. There will be no recovery. I can appreciate that divorce may not be the best option for you at this stage. That does not mean you cannot carve out a new life for yourself. What do I mean? Cut her out of your life while under the same roof. Move to another room or move her to another room which ever option will put a smile on your face assuming that has not been already done.
Interactions and conversation. Keep it to the bare minimum with her. Conversation, reason, empathy are all wasted avenues on your wayward wife. Rest assured your suffering is your wife's pleasure. It demonstrates to her she has influence over you. Indifference will be your weapon.
If you are like roommates then treat her like one going forward. If she asks you to do something, a chore or favor decline to do so unless you want to do it for yourself or you get some benefit out of it. The grass needs to be cut and you don't feel like doing it because she says so, then tell her to do it herself or tell her to have Pat come over and do it. Might as well get some mileage out of dear old Pat. Any request for this or that tell your wife to ask Pat to do it. Be like a broken record till it drives her mad or away.
Anniversary, her birthday Valentine's day. Just another day. No gifts. No big deal. Should your wife buy you a gift tell her it is unnecessary roommates aren't obligated to buy gifts or to celebrate these days with you. Family gatherings avoid being near her. Be polite but distant. Any other occasions that do not require your presence decline to go with her. Medical appointments are on the menu too. I wouldn't bother to be at her side I would suggest to her that Pat should take her.
Bottom line start living for yourself. Don't destroy yourself for a woman that has proven to be unworthy. Cut her out of your life. Treat her like a stranger. Go out and meet new people.
Indifference is your weapon. Your wife will not stop trying to get a rise out of you. Before you react in anger or turn to drink remember only she benefits from such a reaction from you. Your misery is her fuel. Cut off her supply and spare your health as she is not worth it.
At some point she will confront you about this behavior if you choose this course. Offer no explanations to her. Say nothing and shrug your shoulders. When she picks a fight say you have no idea what she is talking about or say nothing and leave the room. The more you disengage the more she will react and attempt to get a reaction from you. Wear her down instead of yourself. Indifference is your weapon. Use it without mercy.
My ex hb's father remarried at 81 after his (ex's) mother passed away. She'd been a raging alcoholic for decades and he stuck around because he felt that she had nowhere to go. He was probably right.My dad is just about remarried (widowed twice) at 82.
You say you’re in good health. You could still find a woman to love. But hey, I get it. I don’t know what I’d do in your shoes. I know what I wish I’d do.
msy you have many happy years, perhaps spent making your wife’s spending habits change drastically along with her lifestyle, if you’re gonna waste your tome staying with her sorry tail.