So, it looks like you have all the data you need. You know that things won't change. You can either (a) live with it, or (b) move on. It's your choice. However, it doesn't seem like further investigation, rummination, or gesticulation is needed. Move... one way or the other.Well, I’m back 9 months later to vent yet again. Things did get better for a while- I would push the issue and my wife would compromise and allow me to have sex maybe once every 1-2 weeks. But the sex is almost always one sided. She is just not interested. the frequency has continued to decline and it is now getting closer to once a month which is not acceptable for me. As a result, I’ve begun masturbating again just to get a release.
the latest riff about this has put me in a funk. I have been depressed now for almost a week- it Comes after a long spell where she constantly rebuffed my advances. She has now tried to offer “make up“ sex which I am turning down as I am just tired of this sexual relationship being one sided. We just had an argument about it and she said that I can’t expect to get my happiness from her. I then said that perhaps I need to find my happiness from somewhere else and she got really upset and stormed off.
this is sad.