Wife not happy

I would continue the walking thing, try to make it a habit for you. It's important to avoid making it feel like a direct attack, so in the beginning when she refuses or whatnot, go on the walk yourself anyways. Then just keep inviting her like it's a casual thing, you just want her company while you* go walking, and maybe she'll come around more easily.

I can understand her seeing it as a direct attack, sometimes it's just a sensitive issue. She has to make the conscious decision to change her life, otherwise nothign will really help. But seeing you work these things into your daily life, seeing you be more active, might help to motivate her. I was never active before meeting my husband, but he loves the gym and playing casual sports. Seeing him out and about so much, I felt like I had to ramp up my lifestyle, too. I'm still nowhere near where I should be, but I'm eating so much healthier, and just more conscious of what I should be doing (at least. )

Has your wife been checked for Postpartum Depression?
The symptoms are similar to other forms of depression.
•Agitation or irritability
•Changes in appetite
•Feelings worthless or guilty
•Feeling withdrawn or unconnected
•Lack of pleasure or interest in most or all activities
•Loss of concentration
•Loss of energy
•Problems doing tasks at home or work
•Significant anxiety
•Thoughts of death or suicide
•Trouble sleeping

You are absolutely right, those type of foods really make you feel tired, blah, and unmotivated. I can tell when I'm eating too much junk food(which is always from Halloween all the till Christmas.:/ If it's not in the house I have no temptation to eat it and this is just baked goods and a little chocolate. This year(as always) I'm trying not to eat the cookies we make or others bring over with our cookie exchange. I do think many of us women have a harder time with willpower of not eating chocolate/candy then men. My husband refuses to eat any junk.

Eating right and exercising truly makes a difference! Even if its exercising a few minutes a day. Eliminating sugar, fats, saturated fats, ect make a huge difference in the way we feel. I can only bike a few minutes a day now and it really helps my mood improve. I use to be a runner once I met my husband. I now use superfood supplements in my diet and I feel so much better.

Your wife can only change if she wants to. If she's refusing to take your advice and even denying walks with you, she's not going to budge. If you threaten her, she may try to exercise and eat healthy, but most likely it will not last in the long run.

You could try asking her to go to fun places that include a lot of walking like the zoo, hiking on trails, ect. I'm not sure if it would work though.

I started my healthy path(except when pregnant) when I met my husband. He's extremely athletic and runs marathons, triathlons and races in ironmans. He does all the shopping, so there isn't much junk in the house. We don't totally eliminate it because the kids need snacks for school. He didn't ask me to, but since he only eats healthy foods, I switched over myself. We now teach our children the importance of home cooked meals and fruit/veggies for snacks at home. My children have had fast food only a few times in their life unless its subway. They actually don't like it.

If your wife likes to cook ask her to make meals for you that are healthy. Tell her that you really would like them. Maybe that would motivate her to eat them as well. Allrecipies.com is one of my absolute favorite websites. It has very good recipes and there are people who make revisions in the comments to make it healthier or buy a good diet cookbook. Amazon.com has great ratings telling you which are the better cookbooks. I love making my husband happy and I do take his advice seriously.

When I was a teenager I worked at a fast food joint. I ate there daily, sometimes twice in a day if I worked a double shift. I absolutely loved the food. Once I quit eating it(I haven't had FF for over 12-13 year) I no longer can stand it. It smells gross too.

I really wish you luck. I understand your concerns and as we age eating healthy is so important to our health. It helps with cholesterol, diabetes, keeps a healthy heart, ect..

I have tried to assist with the medial process of getting her help. She says she will do it and never does. I think my main shot at getting through this is to give up on trying to help. Stay out of it. Hope to god something will change. I just know my wife and she will never do anything that I give advice on she thinks I am attacking her. Marriage kind of sucks. Everything is getting ugly especially after our first child. I just think sometimes that no 2 people should actually be together for a long period of time. You end up getting on each others nerves. I see it other couples even my parents. your almost better when you have your own life and get to choose your own path? But this is the process of life. Get married and have kids. Deal with all of the issues even if your not happy but could be. My child is wonderful and healthy and need to fight through it for his sake.

Sanmon said:

I have tried to assist with the medial process of getting her help. She says she will do it and never does.

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When its' time, make the doctor's appointment yourself and take her. Tell her it's your job to help her when she needs that help.

But right now do not rush to get her on anti depressents. There are natural ways to fix this.

The walking is a very good start. Do it every day that she will go. Over time make the walks longer.

Do not complain about the junk food as this will make her defensive right now. Do make sure that there is healthy food in your home.

Can your really afford all the junk food she's buying? It's expensive. Working on how money is spent might be a better way to handle this.

It just sounds like she's not happy. Does she work outside the home? Maybe she needs to get a job. What interests does she hvae outside the home? What friends?

How often do the two of you go out and do things?