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You need to push for full custody. Your kids are miserable. Their mother doesn’t even have proper room for them, what kind of living conditions is a one bedroom apartment when she has two kids and an infant?? It’s ridiculous. Your kids deserve a real home, with a parent who makes them feel wanted. Stop negotiating with her, at this point you are getting nowhere and she isn’t looking out for your kids.


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You need to push for full custody. Your kids are miserable. Their mother doesn’t even have proper room for them, what kind of living conditions is a one bedroom apartment when she has two kids and an infant?? It’s ridiculous. Your kids deserve a real home, with a latent who makes them feel wanted. Stop negotiating with her, at this point you are getting nowhere and she isn’t looking out for your kids.


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Yeah I'm kind at that point. My lawyer said that's pretty much where it's at. She was trying to save me the costs of having to do it because she said things can always be brought to family court where id get a free lawyer.
At this point its best to just get it done.
 

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Well I finally got an answer. The Dr. thinks my ex has MS. She will find out more next week
I’m sorry to hear this. While this is a rough thing to be faced with, it doesn’t necessarily mean the end of her life. If they have caught it early, there are meds that can help her live almost normally. I used to work with a lady who had it and other than some tired days, you’d never guess she had anything. Her biggest complaint was that she had to take meds.


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Yeah it sucks for sure, I'm hopeful it's something different just for her sake anyway. I guess she has been dealing with new symptoms for few months and she had a fall at work the other day which I saw her leg after it happened and it was messed up. Guess that's what's leading them to make this diagnosis.

Guess we shall see how it goes and if this affects anything in terms of the divorce. I know her RA has attacked her fairly quickly so if it is MS I am hopeful that isn't the case this time around.

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Kids lawyer responded to what my ex sent back..
"The changes seem to address the concerns of the mother, but will make it more disruptive for my clients as opposed to a set schedule without the "floating day".

She went on to say all three wanted more time with means wanted to know how frequently the floating day would take time away from me.

My lawyer is sending my response to her and she also told her to reach out to me directly if she has anymore questions.
I just explained its the same schedule has it is now and its madness.. didn't use the word madness.
 

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Ex texted me today, she was mad that she will be denied heap for her electric bill because I claim the 3 kids to get food stamps, I hate that I needed them but I do. One day I will change that.
She was quite pissy about it but not sure she wanted from me besides to complain. Ended up talking about the agreement and she was trying to get me to agree to a schedule and I stuck to my guns and told her I'm sorry for what's shes going through but most of whats happening is because of her choices. Besides the medical issues of course.

It became clear to me today that she has now reached the bottom of the hole she was digging herself in. Shes pissed her lawyer wants more money now to continue, she claims she has spent every penny she got from the tax return and stimulus ( somewhere around 17 -20k if I had to guess) thats since end of January or whenever she got the taxes back.

She does not want to agree to the custody agreement set by the kids lawyer and what my lawyer added giving her more the week just no overnights that would change every week. If I could post the screenshots I would, she was not happy with what I was saying since I wasn't giving in. Conference the 17th and we shall see how it goes.. I'm fully prepared and expecting to just bring it to court as much as I wanted to avoid it.

One positive she finally has her life insurance medical exam next week so that will be good and her MRI isn't showing what the drs were looking for for MS so its not that supposedly, going to see a specialist in NYC this month. I do wish her well medically but I can't worry too much about what's happening with the other stuff unless it has to do with the kids.
 

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Stop engaging and “negotiating” with her. Go for full custody. Your arrangement sounds insane and your kids are unhappy. She isn’t your priority, the kids are. I hope the conference is productive but I think you’re going to need court.


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Stop engaging and “negotiating” with her. Go for full custody. Your arrangement sounds insane and your kids are unhappy. She isn’t your priority, the kids are. I hope the conference is productive but I think you’re going to need court.


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I wasn't negotiating but she was trying to. I basically told her off bit nicely, told her the mess she's in is her fault and no one else's stuff like that. Told her I tried to mediate she didn't want to. If she has a suggestion she can talk to her lawyer who will relay it to mine who will then give it to the kids. She accused me of manipulating the kids into saying they wanna be here stuff like that. I shut her down and that was it. After my last message to her basically telling her to **** off without actually saying it she messaged me about an update on the issue my son had at school... oh fun times the school never blocked YouTube and he's been watching lots of videos during class. Clicked on over 70 last Friday everything from diy crafts, hotwheels, legos, killer clowns and girls stripping.. oh to be young and have the internet at your fingertips!

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