Wife left me 3 weeks ago and here is why "Please Help"
My situation is very complex. First, I have been together with mi wife for 6 years and we have been married for almost 2 years. I have known my wife since we were kids. The reason why I am writing here is because she left me 3 weeks ago today. To explain he reasons for leaving, I will write short summary of our life.
I have been very possessive and manipulative, I have also try to separate her from her family, mistake that I truly regret. My wife she said that she was becoming someone else and she was not happy. I don’t smoke or have any bad habits and I have been loyal to her since day one, but I have been very jealous. Essentially, she got tired of everything and gave up.
Before you guys think I am a horrible husband, here is my story. I am 28 years old and my wife is 23. I have a 9-year son with a previous relationship; my wife truly loves my son. I have joint custody of my son, and he spends half of the week with me and the other half with his mom.
My wife moved to the States from Colombia and left her family to come live with me. She did not have anyone here and I was her everything. I took her to school very early pick her up take her to work and I began to give up many things to please her. I gave up friends and even work so she would be happy and not go back to Colombia. At that time, we were living at my parent’s house and we stayed there for 2 years until she began to have problems with my mom. My mom always wanted to raise my son and we were forming a family and we got tired of that. She moved to friends house for about 4 months until I got everything straight to purchase our house.
Soon after, we moved to our new house and life was beautiful. I helped her get a much better job at the bank and she was doing better financially. We both go to school and are almost done. We had our casual fights mostly because she did not like my job as Realtor since I am paid based on commission. I was also not as interested in my job as much, just to be around her. Another main factor that contributed to worsen the relationship was because her sister moved in with us. The sister came from Colombia to live here.
First, I took her sister everywhere and we helped her get a good job, but I heard her talking bad things about me with her family and I felt betrayed. She did not contribute financially to our house and I had many arguments with my wife. At the end she was just paying 50 dollars a week. The sister always said that my wife was living a boring life, but we had a family and always did things with my son the days we had him. I do want to mention that the sister loves my son very much as well. This is basically my situation.
I am aware of my problems and I have been working on them for a long time, my wife even said that she was really proud of me for working hard. Anyhow, it looks life she never believed in my change because it has been 3 weeks since she left me. I moved back to my parent’s house and she is living at my old house with her sister. For the first 2 weeks a begged and pleased implored her to come back. Now, it has been 3 days since I talk to her. I do talk to her sister as we workout together. Her sister told me that my wife is really happy and she is becoming herself again. Since the separation, I have had an spiritual awakening and I found God in my life, I know it’s hard to believe but I feel peace in my heart and I feel that I can offer her a more sincere relationship. Also, I am starting my own business with my best friend I am trying to focus on my son and myself. At this point, she has not signed the divorce papers, but she told me to forget about her, because she does not wan to be with me at this point and she does not know about how she will feel in the future. My question is should I move on or wait for her. I am trying the 180 but I feel that I love her too much to give up on my marriage. I can truly offer her a much better life not. I hope its not too late. Should I move on or wait for a sign.
My situation is very complex. First, I have been together with mi wife for 6 years and we have been married for almost 2 years. I have known my wife since we were kids. The reason why I am writing here is because she left me 3 weeks ago today. To explain he reasons for leaving, I will write short summary of our life.
I have been very possessive and manipulative, I have also try to separate her from her family, mistake that I truly regret. My wife she said that she was becoming someone else and she was not happy. I don’t smoke or have any bad habits and I have been loyal to her since day one, but I have been very jealous. Essentially, she got tired of everything and gave up.
Before you guys think I am a horrible husband, here is my story. I am 28 years old and my wife is 23. I have a 9-year son with a previous relationship; my wife truly loves my son. I have joint custody of my son, and he spends half of the week with me and the other half with his mom.
My wife moved to the States from Colombia and left her family to come live with me. She did not have anyone here and I was her everything. I took her to school very early pick her up take her to work and I began to give up many things to please her. I gave up friends and even work so she would be happy and not go back to Colombia. At that time, we were living at my parent’s house and we stayed there for 2 years until she began to have problems with my mom. My mom always wanted to raise my son and we were forming a family and we got tired of that. She moved to friends house for about 4 months until I got everything straight to purchase our house.
Soon after, we moved to our new house and life was beautiful. I helped her get a much better job at the bank and she was doing better financially. We both go to school and are almost done. We had our casual fights mostly because she did not like my job as Realtor since I am paid based on commission. I was also not as interested in my job as much, just to be around her. Another main factor that contributed to worsen the relationship was because her sister moved in with us. The sister came from Colombia to live here.
First, I took her sister everywhere and we helped her get a good job, but I heard her talking bad things about me with her family and I felt betrayed. She did not contribute financially to our house and I had many arguments with my wife. At the end she was just paying 50 dollars a week. The sister always said that my wife was living a boring life, but we had a family and always did things with my son the days we had him. I do want to mention that the sister loves my son very much as well. This is basically my situation.
I am aware of my problems and I have been working on them for a long time, my wife even said that she was really proud of me for working hard. Anyhow, it looks life she never believed in my change because it has been 3 weeks since she left me. I moved back to my parent’s house and she is living at my old house with her sister. For the first 2 weeks a begged and pleased implored her to come back. Now, it has been 3 days since I talk to her. I do talk to her sister as we workout together. Her sister told me that my wife is really happy and she is becoming herself again. Since the separation, I have had an spiritual awakening and I found God in my life, I know it’s hard to believe but I feel peace in my heart and I feel that I can offer her a more sincere relationship. Also, I am starting my own business with my best friend I am trying to focus on my son and myself. At this point, she has not signed the divorce papers, but she told me to forget about her, because she does not wan to be with me at this point and she does not know about how she will feel in the future. My question is should I move on or wait for her. I am trying the 180 but I feel that I love her too much to give up on my marriage. I can truly offer her a much better life not. I hope its not too late. Should I move on or wait for a sign.