My wife moved out Sat. The whole story is on another thread "16 years of marriage gone?" I've been stumbling and bumbling around trying to figure out 180, NC, and just what in the heck happened here? I've tried to go NC, but we have two daughters 15 and 10. I work shift work. She works late often past 7 daily. The girls have soccer, cheer, b-ball, friends etc... Before she moved out it was difficult enough getting everyone where they needed to be on schedule. Now it's crazy. We are agreed in letting the girls go where they want, but they have to stick to the schedule that they decide. The exception is when I'm on nights, they have to go to their Mom's. I sent her a long letter today pouring out my guts. Told her that I was not giving up on the marriage, but I would give her space and freedom. The next week I'm on nights, so I should have NC for at least 3 days, who knows? I try to be civil and cordial when discussing scheduling. All I know is it hurts to see her and it hurts to not see her. I guess what I can do is go full e-mail/texting to keep NC. Wish me luck.