My wife is chronically suspicious. She will at times admit it's not my problem - it is due to her history and insecurities. She is in individual therapy as well as our MC.
I am glad she is talking to someone, and I should be patient, but it drives me nuts. I am very honest and straight-forward, I hide nothing. It's not even about women all the time, she just suspect ulterior motives any time there is a change.
Example: She knows I usually avoid gatherings or parties, but recently two other divisions of our company (we work together too) moved to our floor and they had an Open House - so I went to stop by for 15 minutes and say hi. I have recently become management and it's part of my job to make connections and be friendly.
She got weird on me and became quite annoying. "When you came back you made a face at our boss - what did that mean???" etc...I always make faces with my boss. He is British and we are always joking with each other often without words. But this time there was some hidden meaning. I said it was nothing unusual but she didn't accept that...
With women it was much worse but has gotten a bit better since she started with counselling.
I want to be and deserve to be trusted...
How do you handle constant unreasonable suspicion?
If I just ignore her I put distance between us and I don't want that...
I am glad she is talking to someone, and I should be patient, but it drives me nuts. I am very honest and straight-forward, I hide nothing. It's not even about women all the time, she just suspect ulterior motives any time there is a change.
Example: She knows I usually avoid gatherings or parties, but recently two other divisions of our company (we work together too) moved to our floor and they had an Open House - so I went to stop by for 15 minutes and say hi. I have recently become management and it's part of my job to make connections and be friendly.
She got weird on me and became quite annoying. "When you came back you made a face at our boss - what did that mean???" etc...I always make faces with my boss. He is British and we are always joking with each other often without words. But this time there was some hidden meaning. I said it was nothing unusual but she didn't accept that...
With women it was much worse but has gotten a bit better since she started with counselling.
I want to be and deserve to be trusted...
How do you handle constant unreasonable suspicion?
If I just ignore her I put distance between us and I don't want that...