Oh just stop. Seriously. The rules were to strict? Get out of here with your crap. Seriously. Go away.This is probably the biggest difference between me and the others here. I do not believe love is a zero-sum game. It certainly doesn't have to be.
With rape, you're forcing someone to have sex with you against their will. That's not what we're talking about here. But you're right, we have rules to curb some of our behavior which may hurt others. However, not everyone is hurt by the same things or to the same degree so the rules don't have to be the same in every relationship.
That's up to the individuals in the relationship and every relationship will be different. There are some people who don't mind letting their partners go off and have fun and also want to have fun themselves, so in those relationships there will be no consequences. Others are not so easy going but are not super restrictive either. Most people on this website definitely don't fall into either of those categories. They don't want to see their partners have sex, kiss, hug, send explicit texts to, receive explicit texts from, go out with, or flirt with anyone else. Ever. Period. It's your prerogative to establish the rules as you see fit. I'm just saying the tougher your rules are, the tougher it's going to be for somebody down the line, even if they went into the relationship very much in love. Maybe when your partner who has supported you and loved you and raised children with you for fifteen years goes off and has a fling, it's not because they're a colossal piece of ****. Maybe the rules were too strict to begin with.