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Would a wife hitting a husband with a fist be considered assault even if the force used isn't sufficient to cause any significant physical pain?
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Yes it is.
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Is it assault?
Yes.
Will the police take it seriously?
Probably not.
Unless you got a bruise or something like that.
Yes.
Will the police take it seriously?
Probably not.
Unless you got a bruise or something like that.
I think you'd have to be a bit more specific. I'm not sure what "isn't sufficient to cause any significant physical pain" means. So, I'm driving down the road, my wife spots a VW and yells "slugbug" and hits my arm.....not assault (as far as I'm concerned). But, if we're in a fight and she punches me with the same force, I suppose that is assault.
During our last row my wife threw wine from her glass at me. I heard the other day that I could have got a two year restraining order just for that if I had a mind to. For me it was good to see some active aggression from her as opposed to her usual passive aggression. But it’s me who ended up repainting the ceiling.
The exact wording of the assault statute depends on your state, but "yes".
The "shall arrest" statute regarding domestic violence means I have to take the primary aggressor to jail. That doesn't necessarily mean the one who caused the most physical damage to the other party. In my state, if you make the first provocative physical contact and the police can prove it, you're taking a ride.
The "shall arrest" statute regarding domestic violence means I have to take the primary aggressor to jail. That doesn't necessarily mean the one who caused the most physical damage to the other party. In my state, if you make the first provocative physical contact and the police can prove it, you're taking a ride.
My wife hits me with her fist all the time.
Especially when I lift her off he floor or when we're fooling around in bed.
She can *assault* me anytime she wishes.
That's her prerogative!
Especially when I lift her off he floor or when we're fooling around in bed.
She can *assault* me anytime she wishes.
That's her prerogative!
LOL. My wife has never hit me in anger but she has tried in a playful manner. It is hilarious.Would a wife hitting a husband with a fist be considered assault even if the force used isn't sufficient to cause any significant physical pain?
But indeed women can be abusive to men. If the intent is to harm then there is an easy answer to this.
Cut them loose from your life.
It's wonderful that your marriage is cookies and cream, Caribbean Man...My wife hits me with her fist all the time.
Especially when I lift her off he floor or when we're fooling around in bed.
She can *assault* me anytime she wishes.
That's her prerogative!
But I think the original poster intended on his post being taken seriously. Perhaps you are too caught up in la la land to realize that physical abuse in a relationship (from a male or female) is VERY real and can be a VERY big problem... I don't think the original poster is going to benefit from your Grade 9 humour.
NF, I think it was germane to the dicussion. The fact is that women can often in a playful manner hit on their man. The difference is the intent.It's wonderful that your marriage is cookies and cream, Caribbean Man...
But I think the original poster intended on his post being taken seriously. Perhaps you are too caught up in la la land to realize that physical abuse in a relationship (from a male or female) is VERY real and can be a VERY big problem... I don't think the original poster is going to benefit from your Grade 9 humour.
Well, in that case, hope my wife never tries this.The "shall arrest" statute regarding domestic violence means I have to take the primary aggressor to jail. That doesn't necessarily mean the one who caused the most physical damage to the other party. In my state, if you make the first provocative physical contact and the police can prove it, you're taking a ride.
Otherwise, I don't have a snow ball's chance in hell of not spending the night in jail.
I think you should read AFEH's post.It's wonderful that your marriage is cookies and cream, Caribbean Man...
But I think the original poster intended on his post being taken seriously. Perhaps you are too caught up in la la land to realize that physical abuse in a relationship (from a male or female) is VERY real and can be a VERY big problem... I don't think the original poster is going to benefit from your Grade 9 humour.
My wife is also passive aggressive.
It is a form of "constructive aggression."
Maybe you could try it?
It doesn't matter if you are a man or woman, you should never hit your partner.Would a wife hitting a husband with a fist be considered assault even if the force used isn't sufficient to cause any significant physical pain?
My husbands co-worker's wife is psychically abusive, she has also gone to jail for domestic violence.
Yes, it will still be considered assault
They do and will take it seriously, man or woman it does not matter.Is it assault?
Yes.
Will the police take it seriously?
Probably not.
Unless you got a bruise or something like that.
Violence and hitting is never OK and cannot be sanctioned. Hitting can be part of rapid escalator couples which we describe in "The Couples Survival Workbook". Start with watching your interactional sequences when you argue. How do things escalate? How does each person push the other's buttons? Then work on two things. First, work on changing your own style of interaction, and change your style to help calm the other. Second, negotiate ground rules for conflict.
A good couple's therapist can be very helpful with this.
In the end, violence of any kind cannot be condoned.
David Olsen, PHD, LMFT
A good couple's therapist can be very helpful with this.
In the end, violence of any kind cannot be condoned.
David Olsen, PHD, LMFT
Absolutely! Violence is violence.Would a wife hitting a husband with a fist be considered assault even if the force used isn't sufficient to cause any significant physical pain?
While the cops might not take it seriously in some places, it is every bit as damaging to a relationship as if that same punch had broken a bone.
I think the time that cops may not take female-to-male aggression seriously is when dealing with reports made after the incident.
From what I saw when I worked at a domestic violence agency, if there was any indication at all that a domestic dispute was mutual, their preference by far was to either take in the person without marks or if they couldn't determine a primary aggressor at the scene, they'd haul them both in and let the courts figure it out.
Not a great solution, and granted this was years ago, but that was something we saw pretty frequently.
From what I saw when I worked at a domestic violence agency, if there was any indication at all that a domestic dispute was mutual, their preference by far was to either take in the person without marks or if they couldn't determine a primary aggressor at the scene, they'd haul them both in and let the courts figure it out.
Not a great solution, and granted this was years ago, but that was something we saw pretty frequently.
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