So, I'm new to this. Let me start off by saying that my family is TOXIC. They are full of strong personalities that only my family could really handle being around. They have these ultra conservative views and they are not afraid to express them in front of strangers. I am very different from them. I am a very liberal college student who is not a strong personality at all. I'm quiet and introverted and that's what makes me be able to stay around them and still love them. My wife is a absolutely strong woman and strong personality who isn't afraid to stand up and say when she thinks something is wrong. But she can get pretty offended at the slightest comments. Tonight we were at a BBQ and we were sitting at the table outside with cousins and siblings. My aunt was taking pictures when she told me to kiss my wife. We kissed and my sister out of nowhere says "that's disgusting " I don't want to see that " and wife is like why are you calling it disgusting and then she turns to me and quietly says she wants to leave and go home. I know if I don't act fast she is going to do something big and embarrassing so I announced to everyone that I had to go get something from the car. When we were alone she calls mi sister a b*tch and all these things that my family has done and they make her feel comfortable and she hates them all. All of the times she's been angry at my family is because of some comments someone made. And I get it, they're hard to be around especially to outsiders. And she takes it all out on me. And I feel so terrible because growing up I always told myself that I would never be like my mom and her siblings who are very divisive and feudal and dramatic. It bums me out because I feel like I'm balancing on a rope or between a rock and a hard place.